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And then it hits me.
Oct 11 2008 15:37

My best friend of 11 years has been abused her entire life in every way short of sexual. She's turning into a sociopath, and I'm really the only one she can speak to honestly. Most of the time. She doesn't express any of this, and she's going to break very, very soon.

My other closest friend of 3 years is an alcoholic and has done a lot of harder things, with a similar story.

My boyfriend's best friend doesn't eat. She does speed. Her father isn't shy about how pretty she is.

My brother has cancer.

And I know other people living in foster homes thanks to what their parents have done and having nowhere else to turn. None of them deserve this.

I feel so small and useless right now.

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1. lalabanana
Oct 11 2008 21:56

I think the most important thing you can do for them is be there.

Offer to take your brother to sessions or if he has to go to chemo, ask if you can accompany him. Treat him like your brother because he still is. Go places together, have good times out.

I'm not sure what to suggest about your boyfriend's best friend and your close friend. You can't make someone kick a habit if they don't want to. Just show your concerns, and as I said, be there. Let them know you are there.

In regards to your best friend, would she be willing to speak to the police, or a trusted teacher, or a doctor, in regards to whomever is abusing her? No one should be abused for that long. No one should be abused, full stop. I have a rough relationship with my dad and have taken him to the police a couple of times. Offer, again, to take her and sit with her if she is willing to speak out. If not, she clearly trusts you a lot to be able to speak to you about it at all. Value that and give her all the help you can. If she breaks, like you fear she may, catch her when she falls.

You're not useless, not at all.

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