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EDIT: Chris went missing September 3rd 2007, here is a link to his web site, please let everyone you know know about this. Thank you.

www.FindChris.org

I'm crying as I'm typing, so please overlook all typos...I'm really not all here.

Our son, who turned 18 last month, has been missing now for 76 hours. He went to work Monday, left work and no one has heard from him nor seen him since. He wasn't having any problems with us, Sunday we all were together and had a great time. He wasn't having any problems with his girlfriend. He did have a bad day at work and we are guessing he went off on a drive too cool down, but we really don't know. He didn't say anything to anybody about where he was going. He was in a hurry to get to work that day and left his wallet home. So he has no money on him nor any access to money. We were able to get into his bank account today and there hasn't been any unusual activity in the last month. We have called everyone he knows and no one knows anything. His girlfriend has called everyone she can think of too.

This is so out of character for him. He has never done anything like this before.

The police are involved and doing all they can. Two different aerial searches were done today and tomorrow there is a ground search going on with volunteers and the police department. He has been listed as a missing person in all 50 states along with a description of his blazer. The police department made up fliers for us to put around town. The top of it says "Missing Person, Suspicious Circumstances".

This is so unreal. This is something that happens on TV, not in real life. The roller coaster of emotions is beyond imagination. The possibilities of what has happened to him and where he might be are endless. To the East of us is a canyon, to the West is desert hills. He could be anywhere. Not knowing anything is the worst.

My husband and our other children are hitting their limits too. Our home is crazy is an understatement. We have had lots of friends and family offer love and support. Meals have been brought in for three days. Our phones are ringing off the hook with well wishers and everyone wondering what they can do.

I'm sorry for going on and on, I just want to cover all the bases, but I'm sure I've missed some things.

Prayers are definitely welcome.

Mostly I'm still in shock. I'm not sure I'll be back on the site for a while. I will post as soon as we know anything.

Please everyone take care, and go hug your kids...

EDIT: Here is a link to the news paper artical.

http://www.thespectrum.com/apps/pbcs.dll/arti cle?AID=/20070907/NEWS01/709070304

I tried uploading the flier but it didn't happen, I'm not sure why.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. It does help to know that people care.

EDIT: I took a picture of the flier and added it to my pictures

EDIT: Here is a link to the web site  http://www.findchris.org/

 

Dearest Shannon,

 

I love your dream. I too have dreams about my son. They are beginning to be the happy ones of meeting him with my creator. They are the ones of him opening His arms to welcome me HOME! I love these dreams. I used to have the dreams of him still alive an than waking to find that the cruel world was there and he was gone. I know this is not like your pain. Yours is so different and yet so much the same.

 

You are grieving like I did. But yet you grieve the unknown. Chris will be Home with you one day. You find the hope and the strength to carry you through in your dreams. They are the subconscious mind. I think there is so much POWER in that. Sometimes it is God giving us the answers of what is to come.

 

Keep your faith. Keep you Love in your God. Keep up looking. Never give up. And know that my prayers for faith and healing... for you and your family. Will never stop.

 

God Bless,

JennBug

Thinking of you all, Shan :)

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Just checking in to see if there was any news...

In my thoughts, Shannon.

(((hugs)))

I hope for good news soon...

Sorry, no news yet.

We are hanging in there, some days better then others. We get asked constantly about how we are and if we know anything. People more often then not say something like "I'm sorry to ask, but..." I tell them that I would rather they asked then that they didn't care. It's nice to know that there are still so many thinking of us and praying for all of us.

Sometimes it is hard to tell people how I am. On the good days I feel like I should not be saying things like "we are moving forward, learning to adjust" because I think that I should always be mourning, and sad. But on the bad days I don't want to tell people that we are falling apart to the point of wanting to die. I feel like I need to show some strength. For the most part I don't worry about others judging my emotions. But it is odd to say "I'm fine thank you, and how are you?" when you know someone is expecting you to say "Our lives are so upside-down we can't even see straight." Or to say "really I should be in a straight jacket today" because you know they want to hear "we are finding strength and peace". Our emotions can still turn on a dime, so asking us how we are really does very from moment to moment.

Thank you all for letting me know that you are still here, still hanging in with me. If you wonder if you have ever made a difference in anyones life, please know that you have made one in mine!

~Shannon

I always hope and pray each day as I log into CC that maybe today will be the day that Chris comes home to you, Shannon, and the news will be here. 

So very many thoughts and prayers remain with you and yours.

Shannon,

Thanks for the update - I find it both mind boggling and amazing that you manage to live even a vague semblance of a normal life with someone so important is missing from it. It is just a testament to the human spirit and our capacity to adapt to our situation, whatever it may be.

Your whole family is remarkable, but you especially take my breath away; I can't fathom how you can be so strong and so honest in the face of such terrible adversity, but you manage it with grace and dignity, and manage to include us in our hankering for news on your situation. You take my breath away, and I thank you for allowing us to share at least some of your enormous burden. My thoughts, as always, remain with you and Chris, and I send thoughts to him every day, willing him to lead you to some sort of resolution, rather than existing in a a state of perpetual limbo.

shannon i still think about your and your family all the time! don't ever hesitate to come here and vent on your good days OR your bad days! we're all here to support you!

Prayers and good wishes for you and your family, Shannon.  Keep the faith.

Still thinking about you Shannon...

Shannon,

I have my email set so that every time there is a new entry to your post - I am notified - Every time I receive that notice I drop whatever I am doing to check and see if there is any news from you - I look forward to your updates -

When I think of what you are going through my heart just drops to the pit of my stomach - I just ache for you - When my daughter ran away at 15 - I was totally beside myself - I thought I was going to completely lose it - But there was only 1 day of not knowing what had happened or where she was - The following 4 months while she was away from home was the most difficult time of my life - I had the uncertainty of not knowing what she was doing or exactly where she was - She was my only child and I was quite devastated - I did a lot of crying and a lot of praying - I know when people would ask me how I was doing - I would just tell them that I am trying to get through today - But during those 4 months everyone at Church was praying for me - and that is what got me through!!

After the four months there was an answer to our prayers - my daughter was begrudgingly back home - We went through some hard trials as she finished her teen years - But she has grown up to be a fine woman with a daughter of her own.

Shannon, I can only imagine the helplessness you feel, the pain and anguish you are going through, the heartache that is constantly there - Your situation is so, so much worse than anything I ever had to endure.

It is so nice to know that sooo many people are praying for you!!!

We hope our prayers can help you help you get through.

 

 

 

 

What a busy week it's been. Last Thursday and Friday was our state PTA convention. All the ladies (except one) from our group wore the "Find Chris" T-shirts on one of the days. We were asked questions by so many people. It was great to remind people that he is still missing and that we are still looking. So many of them remembered the story from when it was on the news last fall. A lot of them would ask how are we still standing. My answer still is "because of prayer". It felt great to be getting the word out again. It always feels better when we feel like we are doing something.

At one of the booths that have things for PTA to do as fundraisers was a lady that had a button making machine that did 6" buttons. She took a picture of our T-Shirt, so we also had these huge "Find Chris" buttons on our bags as well. Mine is now on my purse so everywhere I go I have this big button.

Our school year is coming to a close. All of the kids are busy with end of year concerts, state competitions, awards assemblies, final field trips, etc. My brain is in so many places right now and I'm not sleeping very well. It really is hard to have real life continue on when I feel I need to be doing more for Chris.

We have the Utah Summer Games here in our home town in a couple of weeks. I'm going to make sure that every gas station, restaurant and motel have a "Find Chris" flier in them. I want everyone who is here to know that we are still looking for him. He is out there somewhere and someone knows where. I hope that we can somehow reach that person and have them help us find Chris.

I need to go, there is, as always, too much to do today. Thanks again for your support. I'm still waiting for the day that we get to start a new thread that says he's home. Thanks for waiting with me.

~Shannon

Hi Shannon,

You don't know me but I want you to know your family is often in my thoughts and that I haven't forgotten. Keeping you and all your family in my prayers.

Linda

Hi Shannon, Just wanted to let you know that I'm still sending hope your way.  I think about you and your family all the time!  {{{{shannon}}}} hang in there.

Thanks for the update Shannon, good luck at the summer games - hopefully you'll find something to go on there. Chris is still in our hearts and minds, but it can't hurt to have his picture out there, just in case.

Shannon, here is a suggestion.

Have you tried a pshycic? I read this book 'Who killed my daughter' by Lois Duncan. It's a non-fiction about a womans search to find her daughters killer.

She went to some pretty amazing pshycics, I could get her publishers info, and maybe her contact information and we can call to see about those Pshycics?

 

Just a suggestion, let me know if you're interested.

We're still thinking about you and Chris.

Yes, Shannon, you and your family have been in my thoughts today.

Praying for and thinking about you and your family today!

God Bless

JenBug