Welcome to the new over 100 to lose club!

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Howdy guys and gals!  I'm taking over this club, not because i think i have all the answers (i so know i don't) but because i'm super pumped up right now and motivated to help those people out there who have a lot of weight to lose.  we need a place that's more than a "can i join" place.. we need a place to talk about issues related to being this overweight.. 

Who here needs to lose over 100 pounds? Who needs to lose over 150 pounds? Or more?

I did! I did! And yes.. i did!

A small amount of background on me for those of you who don't know: i am a binge eater. I have had a problem with emotional eating, hidden eating, over eating, eating with a hang nail, eating because i have split ends.. you name it i stuffed my emotions down with the greasiest, nastiest food i could find!

Why did i do that (you might ask)? Because of many many different reasons.. frankly i think it was because this is how i was taught from a young age, this is how we handle stress and emotions. I learned that it's not proper to talk about your feelings.. or god forbid, express your emotions! You have to shove them down with a piece of cake and a smile!

Anyway.. onto the reason for this post.

If you are out there and need to lose a lot of weight.. just like i've got to.. i think we need to have a place where we can discuss these issues with each other and try and work through them together. Because, let's face it, people who are morbidly obese (yes.. i hate that word too) have uniquely different issues to work through and deal with than the average person.

Losing weight, for people who have this much to lose, have to deal with so much more than the formulas to figure out how much to eat.. and exercising. It's more complex than that. We have to deal with years and years of poor eating habits that have to be unlearned, we have to deal with the emotional torment of just being this size, we have to deal with the harsh looks and comments from strangers or from loved ones, we have to deal with our emotions for the first time in our life because we aren't shoving them down our throats anymore..

this is the hardest thing ANYONE has to deal with.. but, from my experience, things are different for us bigguns. :)

also, for those of you who don't know me very well.. (because i've kinda been in hiding and not posting much and there are so many new people out there) i started out in january weighing 324 pounds. I now weigh 232.5.. i have lost 91.5 pounds so far. I am not telling you guys this to get kudos.. i got those yesterday. I'm telling you guys this because i want anyone out there who is struggling with knowing they have, what seems to be, an insurmountable amount of weight to lose, that there is hope.. it IS possible.. you CAN do it.. but it's hard.. and you will hurt.. i know this because i've been there.. i've done it.. and i'm still dealing with it.

so.. come on in and share your stories.. i want to hear them and i want us to support each other until we are all at our goal weight!
Edited Aug 15 2006 11:46 by Erik
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I try raisin bran and skim with fruit and/or a non-fat yogurt for breakfast.  Cereal gets an A- and the rest gets an A. 

For lunch, I like a plain baked potato with chives and black pepper--lemon juice, weirdly, is also good, as is salsa.  Salads with oil and vinegar work, and sometimes I go for chicken breast on top.

Dinner is fish, broiled or baked, with brown rice or whole wheat pasta or boiled/baked potato.  If I go Italian, a pasta with a marinara sauce is good as is grilled shrimp.  If there's a Japanese place, I do sashimi or sushi with very little rice and soy, heavy on the wasabi, daikon, and pickled ginger.  I try to avoid fast food like the plague. 

I have more trouble with sodium when travelling--and keeping fiber up--than I do with keeping fat down.  There is so much hidden sodium!!

Good luck!  :D
Thank you!  and Thank you for suggesting I add you all as friends, and for clicking on the above links.  I just spent about the last hour doing just that (lol) and updating my profile too.  I find the first thing I do when I power up my computer for the day (and last thing before shutting down) is check this site, and the forums, and then bring up my food log (to prepare for whatever I eat to be added), and I'll keep the site minimized through the day, and sort of check back from time to time.  Everyone has been really helpful and friendly and supportive and it's been a BIG help.

Thank you again!
I have done a bit of traveling the past couple months, and I've faced the same issue as pamt1998.  Here's how I *try* to watch out for "the usual suspects" (fat, sodium, processed sugar and overeating).

1.  When I order, I ask the server to bring a container *with* my meal.  When the meal is brought, I immediately put half in the "to go" container.  Restaurant portions are notoriously overlarge, and removing it from my plat removes the temptation to clean my plate.

2.  I ask for dressing on the side because they put waaaay more than the 2 Tbsp. which is a "serving".  Or bring your own low/non fat.

3.  Don't be afraid to ask them to use no salt while cooking.

4.  I look for broiled or open-flame grilled lean meat, fish or poultry rather than fried, pan friend, grilled (on flat grill as in the same place they fry bacon & eggs), preferably without teriyaki or other high-sodium marinades.  If flat grilling is the only option, ask them to use olive oil rather than butter.  They use lots of oil with high flash points, so foods don't stick and don't require as much attention.

5.  I'm not really big on cooked veggies, but I do like corn on the cob, which I can order at a restaurant like Chili's.  And if you ask, they won't butter it or put salt & pepper on it.  Also at most restaurants, if you order something like fajitas, where they grill the onions & peppers, I ask for them raw, so they, too, aren't grilled in fat. 

6.  Avoid salads with breaded chicken and lots of cheese (avoid cheese in general).  They're no healthier than the burgers.

7.  When my companions voiced strong desire to go to "In and Out Burger" for dinner Friday on our way to a conference, I drove through Arby's first and got myself one of their market fresh sandwiches (chicken salad), which although it had too much fat (mayo) and sodium was a MUCH better alternative to hamburger and french fries.  And it was served on a whole grain bread. 

8.  Avoid alcohol and soda pop.

9.  Share a dessert among several people.  Usually, after a nice meal, I only have room for a few bites of sweet anyway, but if I ordered a whole one, I would eat most of it while visiting.

10.  Bring your own healthy snacks or food.  I carry fruit (grapes, apples & others that travel well) and Pria or Luna bars and other healthy snacks when I travel, so I'm less tempted with chips, cookies and other less-than-healthy alternatives. 

When I went to a convention in July, I bought boxed (shelf) fat-free milk and healthy cereal choices; at night I'd put the carton of milk in the hotel room ice bucket and fill the bucket with ice in order to have cold milk for breakfast.  And then I wasn't tempted to buy the breakfast buffet for bacon, eggs, potatoes, pancakes and whatever else they offer.  (You can get fold-up thermal cooler bags that carry easily in your luggage but expand to put food and ice in; when you get to your destination, hit the local market for fresh produce and keep it cold with ice from the hotel ice machine.)

For another convention where food during the event was not only unhealthy but expensive, I brought salad - all prepared except the dressing and protein - in a ziploc bag.  When I was ready to eat, I opened a pouch of tuna (one serving and no messy cans/draining) into the bag and literally tossed it.  I got a mayo packet at one of the vendor stands.  And yes, I do eat mayo, but a very small amount.  One day I brought a paper plate, but one day, I ate it right out of the bag.

Another bring-along that will work - if your room has a hot-water pot for coffee or you can bring your own - is instant oatmeal (Plain Quaker or by Kashi, whole grain and not so much sugar as Quaker).

11.  I drink lots of water while I'm waiting to order and waiting for my order in a sit-down restaurant, so that I'm fairly full when the food arrives - and it counteracts a lot of the sodium.

12.  You know certain "styles" of food will be higher in fat and sodium, so don't even go there unless forced by a meeting.  Cream sauces, butter-dipped seafood and burgers will be high fat.  Chinese food will be high in sodium, but some dishes are also breaded and covered in sugary sauces; if there's an alternative, avoid Chinese food unless you will eat just steamed vegetables and steamed rice (choose that over fried rice and chow mein!).  Mediterranean food (and some Italian) is prepared with olive oil, which is better than other fat choices.  If eating Mexican, choose "frijoles enteros" (whole beans) over refried beans, which have lard added; if ordering fajitas, load them up with pico de gallo rather than sour cream, guacamole and cheese.  (You can ask them to hold that stuff and bring more pico...or just use a dab so you don't feel "deprived".)

13.  For breakfast (and consider breakfast for dinner), avoid bacon & sausage and fried potatoes.  Use a small amount of jam instead of butter on toast and syrup instead of butter on pancakes and waffles.  If possible, order whole grain pancakes (like Harvest Grain 'n nut pancakes at IHOP).  Sometimes I have them bring my eggs poached or "sunny-side-up", and put them on top of the pancakes rather than using butter & syrup.  Avoid bagels if you're watching sodium or can't resist cream cheese.

14.  Take bottled water (especially if driving) or Propel, so you'll drink all your water.

15.  I like to take the opportunity of eating out to have salmon, which I don't prepare often enough at home.  It's higher in fat but also high in Omega-3 fatty acids (good fat). 

16.  Don't let them refill your bread basket.  Avoid ordering chips and salsa or most appetizers for that matter!

Be sure to take your multi-vitamins while traveling, because you may not get the best nutrition.

Okay, I'll stop there...I've probably either bored or overwhelmed you.
hey all, loved your tips on eating out...I always ask for a container with my meal and cut the meal in half.  this allows me to order what I want (well almost).  Somehow having it packed up makes it easier to say no to.  I have also thrown it away if it calls to me to strongly.  Yep I throw good food away. I close my ears to my mother's voice telling me about starving children in china and I throw it away.  what is the difference between the garbage and my belly.....a few pounds on my body.  the choice is easy.
Auntiejill and writestuff -

Thanks for all the great ideas.  What I've found to be the biggest problem for me is whatever meal I'm going to have in the airport.  I was thinking that maybe I should pack my own lunch and then I don't have to worry about it.  I can get ice water on the plane and then I'm in good shape.

What I'm bummed about is that I'm not sure I'll have time to walk either day.  I'm flying out at 6 am on Wednesday, will be in meetings all afternoon, and then have an awards dinner that night.  On Thursday, we start again at 7:30 am, have meetings until almost 11:00 and then I go back to the airport for the trip home . . . and I won't be home until almost 10:30 pm.

I don't mind not getting the exercise as much as I mind missing a day because I don't want to lose my motivation.

Pam
pam- now adays you have to be at the airport so stinkin early.. could you maybe take that time to walk the hallways, rather than just sitting there waiting for your plane?  that will give you some exercise (especially if you have a heavy carry on!)  and will pass the time quicker than people watching.. heh
Hi!!! I am new to this site, today was actually my first day of counting calories & I did survive!!! I have over 100lbs to lose so I think that qualifies me right? I have been a yo-yo dieter, south beach dieter, weight watcher dieter, cabbage soup dieter (yuck) & here i am still overweight. I want to get my weight under control and live a healthy life. My goal is that next summer I actually buy a swimsuit that I plan on wearing in public and go to the beach with my family. I cant even remember the last time I owned a swimsuit.

This site is really what i have been looking for and i am excited to be here and to meet some new friends that understand what its like to be overweight. thanks for listening to me!!!
Hi tubbyt ~ welcome!  I so know what you  mean :)  Glad you are here :)
I guess I belong in this group;)

Happy to find you but wish I belonged in the loose 10lbs club instead! haha

Well I started my healthier life 1 week ago today! And so far I have lost 12lbs! Ofcourse no inches yet but still, I am very happy that I have seen results! Istarted at 260, and want to get down to 157. My first goal is to get under 200lbs, then i will be extatic!!!

So you guys say it is possible?? I sure hope so, and I am so happy that I found this website so i can keep my motivation up! I am usually the kind of person that is all excited and motivated for a week and then I start cheating...

A little bit about me... I am in my 3rd course in the nursing program, I have been married for a year, and live with my hubby and dog. I am originally from Sweden and have been here 4 years.

When I first came to the US i was 174lbs... so I have almost gained 100lbs in 4 years since i came here...

have a great day guys!!
madelene - Great to meet you. I have been here for awhile, but I've been slacking a lot and I am almost back up to where I was. My body just seems to want to stick there. I am very close to where you are; 249. My first big goal is also to get below 200.

I also set myself a lot of small goals along the way, so remember to do that too. It will help to keep you motivated. I'll add you as a friend if that's okay and feel free to do the same. It would be great to have someone who is at the same place as I am. We can motivate each other to keep going!

One thing to everyone is that many of us here think of this as a lifestyle change. It's not a diet because at the end you go back to the old way. We want to make healthy changes now to last our whole lives. Something to keep in mind when you get frustrated.
kalkette- I added you as a friend... I still have not really figured out what that does... have nort played around on the website enough.

What is funny is that we do not just have the weight in common... we have both been married for a year!

I am having a hard day today... been studying all day... and with that comes the snacking.... aaah! I am going to the library now to get away from all possible foods... it is so weird how you can not just stop eating junk... it is like my body find the way to the cabinet without me being there hahaha:)

well, have a great day! And you are so right about the life change... and it not being a diet... this is the start of the rest og our life!
hi everyone!! well it's day 3 and i am still going strong!!! i love this program and i am really paying attention to what i put in my mouth for the first time in a long time. when i looked up some of the calories of stuff i used to eat...WOW... i dont want to imagine how many calories i was eating a day. it kind of makes me sick :(

i am feeling so motivated reading everyones thoughts. i guess it makes you feel better to know that you are not the only person in the world that feels a certain way and that there are so many people struggling with weight issues.

well i am off to make dinner...talk to ya'll later!! :)
I know what you mean tubbyt . For our C-c games, one of the challenges was to check out one of our favorite old meals and compare it to a new one - I took it one step further and compared an entire day. WOW don't quite cover what I thought when I saw the totals. Cheez - louise! It's an eye opener. Now I know I have a better handle on things. Keep up the good work!

Who ya gonna call? GUT BUSTERS!
Hi everyone I have over 100lbs to lose I am doing the No carb diet and it is really hard. I aslo joined the Y and today as my first day going and I thought that I was going to die lol.I just had my second baby and I never got rid of the weight from the first one. So here I am 112lbs to go.

I look foward to talking with all of you.
Welcome new friends***We are so glad to have you here**this is the most supportive group that I've ever encountered on line. I'm glad all of you have decided to make a change in your life for the better...Keep doing up the good work!
Hi everyone!  Welcome!  *waves* 

Dyana, I know that low carb diet is hard!  For me, it was a nightmare.  If the plan works for you and you think it is healthy and sustainable for the rest of your life, that's great, but I do want to let you know what happened to me while doing it/after so you're informed.  I'd hate to have you go through what I did.  :)

I did it 3 years ago, lost 30+ pounds in 3+ months, and stopped because I just had to have some fruit and a few carbs in my life some day and I was told that my kidneys were experiencing "some distress" from eating so much meat/protein.  I ended up gaining back 50 pounds.  Not only that, but I also, although I'd never had one before and was only 30, developed a really high cholesterol problem (270 the first blood test after doing the no carb diet, 249-209 with the new, expensive prescription drug I had to start taking). 

Needless to say, I don't do the low carb now.  Now, I do the 20-25% fat, 25-30% protein, 50% carb plan at 1300-1500 calories a day with lots of water and fiber, low sodium, and 3x weekly cardio, and I have lost 62 pounds doing this over 6 months.  My doctor is ecstatic, and my cholesterol is 122 (fantastic!).  I'm also, thank goodness, off the expensive and hard on my system statin drugs.  My kidneys are happy and healthy.   AND, most importantly for me, I feel good and know I can eat like this for the rest of my life. 

Have you talked with a doctor about no carb?  If not, you may want to, especially if it seems hard for you to do.  112 pounds isn't as much as I originally had (134), but it would still take many months if not years to lose, and if that sounds overwhelming on no carbs, maybe there is another plan your doctor could recommend.

And, like I said, if it works for you and you are getting healthier, go for it!!  I'm not trying to judge you or be a downer.  I promise!  :D
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