Motivation

anyone in the 180's and wanna join me for support? hopefully we'll be able to move down the 170's, 160's and 150's (if you wanna go that far) together!!!

187.8 another pound down!

 I get my treadmill today, I am SO excited. 

But I am going to have to miss Gloved Sparing tonight... Sad.

This weekend is I Chi Ching... which is Yoga with a twist that makes it a really really tough all day work out.  So no fights untill NEXT wendsday.  Then the weekend after I am going to Portland and Seatle for the Drunken Festivals... Drunken Kung Fu Double Broadsword oh my!

185 is my BIG platue.  It is the weight my body has hung out at since I quit smoking 3 years ago.  I went from 175 straight to 185.  So this last 10 lbs is going to be SO SO hard! 

I am about 185 right now... although my scale just likes to change it all the time. I got down to about 160-165 in college and I loved it.  I know I could go lower though too than even 160. This time I am going for 150. I think that will be pretty much perfect. If I get there and think I can do better... than I will. But pretty much I would be sooooo excited to just get to 150.

I just started this a little over two weeks ago, I already had a fairly healthy diet and exercised 3 times a week, but found out it wasnt good enough. I have high cholesterol (I'm only 23... yikes) It's genetic, but I cant take the medication because my husband and I are trying to start a family. So I am trying to bring it down naturally. I figured getting my weight in check would defintely help on that end.

 If anyone else struggles with cholesterol due to genetics or whatever, I would love to talk to ya and find out if you have had any success! Thanks!!!

I think I'll be stuck the next couple of days.

Lilsmiter, fast food caught up to me when I was running late for class.  Chick Fil-A Monday, Burger King yesterday, and Burger King today.  Keeping my calories in check (except yesterday) though.  But... you're so active!  I don't see how you just "stick" to 185.  Good luck dear.  When I quit smoking I gained 25 lb, and since then I've dropped 20.  You can do it.

Kerzil - technically I should be worried about cholesterol and a lot of heart problems, because one of my grandfathers died from a heart attack at 42, and my other grandfather had several heart attacks throughout his life after age 50.  But my father's cholesterol is phenomenal, for such a big guy, and my mom... well, I don't even know.

Today I'm just... wayy too tired for words... I studied most of the night, then Louie called.  Mannn I love Louie...  I'm up today, from all my bad food.  Up to 180.  If I can bring it back down to 178 by the 8th, I'll be so happy.

I'm 178.0 34.5% bf today. Determined to get to 175 by end of March.

I'm sick of giving myself excuses, like "oh but the cake fits in your calories"
So? It's not healthy for me, and I can have a smaller treat (one dark chocolate square) and be just as satisfied...

Oh, and my damned NEW (as in less than 2 weeks old) nano is broken. I'm so pissed off today I just want to hurt something. Or someone >< 

Nasuoni- hang in there. It sucks that your iPod broke, and so soon. Can you take it back/replace it?

Try to make your anger productive--exercise extra hard. I plan to do the same tonight.  I decided today that M&M's and Soft Batch Chocolate Chip cookies fit into MY calorie plan. That is true, but like you said, I could and should have had some smaller treat. This was definitely overkill. AND I drank extra calories last night, so I forced myself to join that March exercise challenge today. Plan to exercise 1250 minutes by the end of the month.

Haven't been on the scale but I'm sure it isn't down yet. I plan to be at 175 by the end of March...that is about 6 pounds. 

Wish me luck!

Hey-oh, I'm new... I just have a question.  My bf and I have been together for six months (that's him in the pic) and as you can see, we're both not-skinny people.  The good thing is, he loves me (all of me) just as I am, but the bad thing is he's the WORST enabler ever.  He has admitted that he's afraid I'll get skinny and change, maybe even leave him for someone who's skinny too.  I've told him that's absurd and have even suggested we go at the weight loss thing together.  But it's a no-go.  It doesn't help that he's the primary cook in our relationship, and he knows the foods I love.  How do I counter this?  I've told him that I'm unhealth-ly overweight and that in my family that equals I high risk for heart disease, high blood pressure/cholesteral and type II diabetes and that I (quite frankly) NEED to loose sixty or so pounds to stick around for the next sixty years, but while he gets it in his head, he's not getting it in his heart.

HELP!

Reassure him that you love him, and that you would never leave him because you got thinner.

But that if being in a relationship with him stops you from being healthy and living a long time, THEN maybe you'll leave him. You need to be healthy more than you need any relationship, after all.

If you have a good relationship, and you make him feel secure, he should be willing to weather a bit of change, with time and encouragement. If he's really not, then you need to think about whether he will be able to handle the other changes that happen in long-term coupled life.

Jasminesylphs - you live my life, I swear... My special someone said the same thing.  He's like... "I'm afraid you'll get skinny and leave me."  And Yes, it is absurd.  He's a big guy too, and while he doesn't cook, we go out to dinner wayyy more often than we should.  But he tells me I'm beautiful and I get more and more beautiful as I go along.  I wish he would commit to a plan with me too... but then again... he can't even commit with us... so who am I kidding???

Anyways... I feel like it's been wayy too long a day, and unproductive.  I could have been studying, or exercising, but all I did was lay on my bed and watch television.

Explain why you're doing it not as a "I want to get skinny and be hot!" but as a concern for your health. Explain that in your family, these diseases are scary and you are at high risk for them.

Explain that you want to be with him a long time, and that in order to do that, you need to be healthy. You can also play this card for his not eating healthy.

My boyfriend is 6' and only 130 lbs. His body fat is 6%, and he is constantly tired and/or sick. I am trying my hardest to make his gaining weight about his health, because I am attracted to him as he is. He is attracted to me, and knows he will be as I get thinner, and supports my efforts to lose weight for myself, and for our life together. Healthy life=  longer life together for me :) 

Thanks, all for your advice and support.  I think half of it is staying strong and sticking to my guns... but i'm sure you all know that losing weight is hard enough when you have to fight yourself.  I think I'm going to tell him that I can't fight him as well and that I need him to be completely supportive in this decision. 

Thanks again.  I'm really excited finding this site.  It's always easier for me to lose weight with a community of people and I look forward to getting to know you all.

Feel free to ask me questions/advice or to give me answers/advice!

this year i have vowed to vex myself up to be back to my pre baby size but i now know that might not be a very realistic number. I just had baby #2 and started this year off at 198lbs on Feb 4.  now today i am slowly on the road of weight loss and a healthy lifestyle of eating at 186lbs. its really hard when im surrounded by people who strated this voyage with me but have long since fell off the wagon or i find them having a lil tooooooo many "cheat days". I just need to hear that motivation that keeps me going. someone to go through it with. I know i can do it, but it would just be nice to have someone to lean on sometimes...

Jasminesylphs - no, you can't fight two battles.  Stick to your guns, and don't fight him.  Collaborate, I guess, and find a way so that everybody's happy.  I won't get to see Lou this weekend, actually, because he's going down to Charleston to see his parents.  So I have another week of putting off telling him to lose weight alongside me. :-P.  And I have a week of healthy eating habits without him wanting to share dessert with me after every meal.

Trosette - How small were you before you started with children?  Although I've not had children, the beginning of my weight loss was exactly 198 lb, and I am down to 178 - 180 (slight plateau right now).  What helps me is to set a goal for a little at a time.  Say, you want to hit 180 lb by the end of the month.  Very attainable.  Then set another goal when you reach 180.

Tired again today.  My roommate woke me up to change clothes at like 10 p.m. (I went to be early so I could be well-rested for my test today), slammed the door when she came in, and then left shortly after.  Then she came back from the party she went to (on a Wednesday??) and slammed the door coming in at like 1 in the morning.  She gets on the computer, and it's really really bright.  Then she gets a phone call, and just up and talks on it for five minutes while I'm trying to sleep, at 1 in the morning.  Then she leaves again, slamming the door, to do something else.  Coming back at like 3 in the morning, and slamming the door and talking to herself.  She talks to herself all the time... it's okay when I'm awake, but when I'm asleep, I don't want to hear a thing, especially a door slamming.  This is going too far.  I'd like to really really hurt her sometimes.

I didn't even check my weight this morning, I just dived into breakfast.

EDIT:  After breakfast, I weighed 178.2.  I wonder what I weighed before breakfast...?

177.6 and 34.5% I am SO sore today. I did a Winsor pilates dvd yesterday morning (lame workout, but I guess it did work!) called Max Burn.

My back and arms are soooore.

On the bright side my nano is working again, and it's a thursday! Hurray!!!! :D -does a happy dance it's almost friday woo- 

 

Trosette~ Welcome :) We're all here for you!!! 

Nasuoni!! I'm thinking I need something like Max Burn.  Something hard to jumpstart me getting back into working out.  I'm also happy it's Thursday.

I just finished a test for class and I'm pretty confident on it.  One of the questions was a "WTF?" question, as I seriously think I had never seen anything about weapons in the book chapters or the lecture notes.  I have another test tomorrow, it's the last class before I get to leave for Spring Break.  Sadly, this spring break isn't going to be anything special.  No dinero!

I had a big lunch, which put me over 1300 cals, so a very small dinner of oatmeal or so will have to suffice tonight.  I never eat more than 1300 calories unless the Big Bad Burger craving sneaks up on me. :-)

Disclaimer, Slightly Graphic Info.  I'm happy not to see a 180+ number anymore.  If I get down to 170 I might take a break on weight loss and let my body catch up.  I can feel the excess skin trying to hang down right now, and I think if I maintain at 170 for a short while that skin will tighten itself back up.

Leopard~ I eat 1600-1700 regularly...Why are you eating so little?

Hunger?  I'm the most hungry at midday.  The rest of the time?  Never hungry.  I eat breakfast because I should.  I have lunch because I'm hungry.  And I eat dinner because I should.

It's strange.

But I'm hungrier when I've been working out, and I go for it.  That's when I typically eat 1600+ calories.  I'm pretty sedentary right now, because I haven't gotten back into the swing of things since my bronchitis.

I have a lot to study for tonight... but I'm putting it off... I don't want to study!!!!!

Leopard~ If eating like that is working for you, then good :) And studying is a pain in the ass. That's about the only reason I'm glad college is done for me. That and not having midterms or finals hehe.

176.2 this morning. Woo! 34.5%
Trying to make myself go workout tonight. Still sore, but not as bad as yesterday.
Going to try and get the boy to go with me...he's been so exhausted lately though. I feel neglected, but I understand why. -sighs-
Going to eat lunch on the lawn outside again today ^_^ Should be yummys :D

Hi everyone! Sorry it's been awhile, been so busy with finals coming up. Argh. Thanks for all the encouraging comments about the obsessiveness and counting calories. I really think I needed a break! and with that, I'm fiiiinally down my first 10 lbs! 170.6 today :) Almost into the 160's but I don't feel a need to leave this group! You all are such motivators :D I really appreciate it so much. It really is great to have people with common goals backing you up.. as much as my family encourages me (or my 125lb fiance -_- ) it really just isn't the same!

In my step aerobics class yesterday we did sprinting around the gym.. wow I'm SO out of shape even though I've been working so hard at it. I'm fine when we do our normal step routines, but I haven't sprinted since high school and I thought my heart was going to burst! I'm thinking maybe I need to do some extra cardio to get back into it! Doesn't help that when I run I feel like I'm waddling like a penguin :( ha ha.

Hope everyone is doing well! Keep up the great work! :D Have an amazing weekend!

<3
Kirie

I am so proud of everyone that they are doing so well!!!  Great Job!  I am trying to not even get on the scale right now.  I just got off my period, and haven't been logging in.  I am trying to hard to get back on track with that.  I was being very diligent with my logging and I don't know what happened.  I have got to get this weight off!!  I know what some of you are saying about husbands/boyfriends.  My hubby is perfectly happy with me the way I am and is very resistant to try to conform (not cooking with so much butter, salt etc.)  He doesn't understand that I am not happy where I am, for ME.  I'm going to try next week or this weekend to try to get into at least a walking routine.  You guyz are so great about working out!!  You do motivate me!!!! 

WHOLI MOLI did I miss alot!

I usually log in at work... which is why my posts are sometimes supper short... only have time for a line or too... I missed so much!

Leo LOL I know what you mean about the Fast food.... the I am so active line is my favorite, but you know it DOESN"T cut it. That stuff is so bad for you it doesn't matter if you are Running a merathon it'll Still mess you up. Anyway that is my experiance.

I am now on my ~9th day with out fast food I am kind of guessing because I lost count!

186.6 Look at me loosing like 3 lbs this week!

But I am SICK SICK SICK... I caught Leo's cold. hehe. No I just have the flu real good.

 

Jas I hate to be morbid... But Even if you did get skinny and leave wouldn't he prefer that to you getting Grossly fat and dieing? On the surface it is a cute little thing he said, but on a serious level it is disturbing and sick. That is like saying... I want my kids to do cocaine and heroin so that I always get to take care of them. Enabling ultimately is damaging someone you love until you feel like you are Worthy of them. There are no two ways about it. Now I am sure your guy doesn't even realize what he is doing. But maybe some couples counseling could help him feel more secure and teach you how to deal with his enabling personality. And perhaps your own.

Right now however you have only been in this for 6 months. Keep asking yourself is this a destructive relationship. Does he build me or Break me down. Do I feel good about myself when I am with him? Do I treat myself the way I should when he is around?

If you find yourself saying no ... maybe it is time to leave.

 the only reason I am harping is Enablers tend to turn into Abusers.  The kind of thing where one day they bake a cake and a pan of pasta insist that you eat it and the next day say that you are too weak willed to loose weight.  Have another slice of pie.  You are to lazy to excersize have a Margarita.

Do you see how that is both Enabling and Abusive?  My Fear is that if he is already such a strong enabler at only 6 months... how bad is it going to be in a year, when he feels REALLY comfortable with you?