Motivation

So I have seen teen, 20's, 40's, 50's and beyond, but no 30's group.  So would anybody like to get something started?  Not sure where to begin hmmmm

I guess being in our thirties our metabolism has not hit a wall just yet, but it certainly isn't what it was in the 20's.  Don't you miss those days?  Anything you want and as long as you did maybe one sport in high school, then no worries.  Ohwell on to real life where nothing seems to be on schedule.

Let hear your thoughts.

Thanks everyone for the kinds words.

Welcome newbies.. Welcome, to your 30 lets talk.

Right now girls. I did pig out today and some how I didn't go over my calories max. I may have been over in fat, but I wasn't over in calories. I was counting, but getting the children ready for there trip was mostly on my mind this after noon. This morning we made up, but it wasn't what I was looking for. I really wasn't looking for it at all. I'm normally the one who is always breaking up and making up, but this time he was making up as I walked the track. I didn't have nothing to say, but this had to happen. We always do lunch with the children when they go out of town with there grand ma with lunch or dinner and a movie. 

This time.. They asked for lunch, and the movie can happen when they get back. Looking forward to that. 7 days I will be without the kiddie's, and for 1 week we have time to talk and really get some understanding with each other. It's not that we need any understanding, but sometimes I feel he don't show me any respect sometimes. It's not respect, but its more on the lines of-- Hell I don't know what to call it. It's just a problem I've been dealing with for a long time. You know, you feel like you are flipping and running and jumpping, and here they are.. Not doing a damn thing. A special day has to come around for them to show you they remember or they care, or.. Here they come with that last min thing. Oh well, that's how I feel. Sorry, I'm okay. Weight this morning was 158, and I will take that. There is no telling what I will be in the morning.

I can handle it. A good girl friend of mines told me to go ahead and eat what I want. I have 1400 calories today. 1405, and I don't think that is bad at all. But the fat... OOOOOO WEEEEEE! I need to run tonight. I need to hit my programs twice tonight. No gym today.. I just walked around in a blue funk, and for what. I want to say it was all over nothing, but girls you know how we are.. Everything is about something. It's really nothing to a man.

If your relationship is well put together, and has all the fireworks going on.. Kiss your man, and hold him near and dear to your heart. :) We never know when Mr. Right is looking at us.. So what! He's not a prince, but he will do.. ;)

Thanks girls, and Welcome to the newbies;)

I had a horrible eating / exercising day yesterday.  I did my 30 minutes of walking like a good girl, but just before that had argued with hubby long distance....  so, on my walk I stopped and bought a bag of Cheese Puffs - no, not the little bag, the big bag.  And I ate it.  All. And had a couple of drinks.  Felt horrible about that so I ate 4 of those 100 calorie granola bars ( or shall I call them bite sized???)  On the upside though, I did read an entire novel while eating the junk -- Summer Sisters by Judy Blume.  I didn't know she wrote big girls novels, and it was fantastic.  I look forward to finding some of her other books.

Today is better.  Went for my 30 minutes, shopped for 1 1/2 hours and thus far am on track with my calories.  Tomorrow starts the walk / jog part of the Runner's Training ---- please think good thoughts for me, not sure if I'll make it home ok - lol!

Keep up the great work everyone!!!

lynnhaslost, you just hang in there! Men are trouble, that is for sure. Even the good ones are trouble. I know what you mean about the last minute stuff. Sometimes, we want and need a little extra effort. Men just don't get it. I seem to have the same "discussion" over and over with my husband about certain things. It never seems to change, and then there we are, "discussing" the same thing. Its like deja vu. I am sure that Prince Charming would have issues too! Nobody is perfect, thats for sure. Take care of yourself!

I weighed in today.......so far to date I have lost 9.5 pounds! Yeah me!

lulufit, Thanks for the kind words again. You sure have helped me with the hang in there.. I am doing my best.

Hi Girls,  

Today we went out to lunch with the kids. They wanted to eat at Chow Town, and we went their and they was so happy. My boyfriend like the place because he didn't have to change out of his work clothes, but it was lunch time and a lot of people go there during lunch.. Not some fancy place to eat, but the kids love to pig out and have Ice Creme after 1 to many egg rolls. I didn't eat that much. I had one plate of food, and didn't eat all of that, then went for some fruit, and I was done. We are going out for dinner Thursday Night, and the only reason why we are going is because. Well.... I told him a woman needs to really show him how to be a man. So, this is my plans. I am picking him up at 7, and I have already gotten him something and wrapped it, and I'm paying for the dinner just like I paid for lunch. My girl friend it's funny how I'm taking over and wearing the pants. I said.. That's the only way I can show him how it's done.. Men don't like a woman showing them how to be better at something they think the made the rules too.. NO! Some woman back in B.C. Had to show the man how to be a man. ;) So why not give it a try again.

I didn't gain any weight by the way. I'm at 158, and looking forward to holding on to these numbers for a few more days, and not gaining a damn thing. It will be nice if I lose a few pounds during this holiday, but hey... I will take what I get. :0) Take it easy girls... A week without kids, that's 7 days to lose some weight.. LOL...... I can really eat what I want next week... HEALTHY! I do that anyway, but with a week free from kids and everything else, I have no room to slip. I can get back on track.

Chat you all later.. Thanks again girls. :)

Lulufit: virtual high five sister!!! WHOOOO!

Lynnhaslost: you are one strong lady. Try your method. If it doesn't work, then stop taking him out and don't buy him anything else. Plant your own flowers and tend your own soul, hon. You deserve the best---and I don't mean expensive cars and caviar, I mean the best of someone's heart.

levackbound: MMMMMMMMM cheesey Poofs. Don't let it get you down, we all slip. I tripped and fell into 4 non-light beers last weekend.

As for me: ugh-o week. Still massively bloated and stuff, the back is a wreck and hurts so much I wince when I turn my head, and now I've increased my strength training massively because I'm really irked with my lack of progress---and let me tell you ladies, weight squats hurt like a mofo the next day. For reals, I feel about 100 years old today :(. Add some work related bad news and missing "my" man immensely, and Mollie=sad sack. I'm not losing because of the um, plumbing problems and bloating---and NOTHING I do is helping. I'm going to bite the bullet this weekend and do an epsom lax.  I keep imagining that once I get this straightened out, I'll magically be down 5 pounds and my tummy will be flatter than it was---I mean I've still been working out for the week it's been happening!!!  RIGHT???

At least I THINK I've identified the culprit---lots of fiber + not enough fat + a couple week period where I cut my water in half because I was sick to death of peeing every 15 minutes=ruh-roh. We'll see, I guess.

Going to an ND on monday who does Craniosacral therapy and holistic work---the woman I want to see who does accupuncture is gone until August, so I guess I'll start with this kid. And I MEAN kid. He's 4 years younger than me....and when I googled him-----

----he has a Facebook page. I'm slightly nonplussed! Then again, so do I so ;)

Happy Long Weekend, all. No big plans for me outside of fireworks tonight and a lot of cleaning--my house AND my insides!!

Haha... you know you are getting old when....

your doctor/ND/therapist/(insert other professional) has a facebook page!

I just wanted to share with everyone that I did the clothes test this weekend because I haven't weighed myself in so long, I wanted to see approximately where I was at.  I have a couple of pairs of silk pants from Ann Taylor that I used to fit into when I was at my smallest sitting in my closet.  I have actually dragged these pants around the damn world with me, and haven't fit into them in years (about 5 years to be exact.. time really goes quickly doesn't it).  Anyway, guess what?  They fit!  And its not that I can just squeeze into them, they fit almost exactly like they used to (well, except I now have a slight baby belly which I never had before, but who cares).... THEY FIT!!!   Which means, I am pretty much where I wanted to get to in my weight loss, I have hit my goal (and this time it isn't a number, its just the point that I am satisfied with how I look and feel!)

I just have to say that I realize how much happier of a person I am without all the extra weight!  Its unfortunate that putting on a little weight slowly, and then adding pregnancy pounds to that really just sent me into a funk that I am now slowly emerging from.  I recall this happening in my mid 20's when I first became healthier, I was walking home one day and thinking how great life was.  I know we shouldn't let weight dictate our mood, but for me, it was so difficult knowing how hard I had worked the first time around to lose 45lbs and maintain it for 3 years, only to find myself put most of it back on and lose that high level of fitness I had worked so many hours to achieve abd be back at square one!  And maybe thinking about it, it isn't necessarily the weight that bothered me (I mean, we all like losing weight, and I like the way I look now that I have lost it), but the fact that I was totally out of shape, that carrying my baby up a flight of stairs was excruciating and I would be sucking wind by the time I hit the top.  That when I daughter wanted to play/dance/run, I would tire out and be out of breath in no time and just not feel like doing it anymore.  Now I can run around with her at the park while she chases me or visa versa and while she still will tire me out, I don't feel like my lungs are going to explode! 

The other thing I am really enjoying about losing the weight this time is that I am not obsessing about a number on the scale or exactly how many calories I am consuming.  It became all consuming last time around, probably bordering on a little unhealthy.  Well, I am working hard this time to not let that happen and feel like I have done a pretty good job of it.  I will always have to be conscious of what I eat, but I feel like I have foind a formula that is working for me right now, which involves treats IN MODERATION (one of my big problems).  It also means that special occasions are just that... special and I can enjoy them and everything that goes with them (but try hard not to go overboard). 

My husband said to me... you hip bones are sticking out, they didn't even do that "back in the day" (his term for back when we first met, before moving to Australia, getting married and having a baby), its turning me on!  It made me laugh, because I was probably about 10 or so lbs heavier than I am now when I met him and I always told him I used to be quite a bit smaller (I don't think he believed me) and I really wanted to get back to that.  He was always like, you don't need to lose weight!  I love the fact that I can now turn heads again, and he gets to have the "yummy mummy" for his wife! 

Sorry to ramble, it was just such a rush to realize I hit my goal even when I stopped really trying a few months ago!  Which means I have really achieved my goal, not just with weight, but with a lifestyle change that allows me to live "normally" and lose/maintain my weight. 

So now the big question... will I lose more?  When i think about that I just kid of think, well, I eat well, I exercise, I am not starving myself by any means (in fact, I eat quite a bit really!), and while I am at a very healthy weight, I am not in any danger of getting "too thin."  So, if in living the way I have been I do happen to lose more, I don't think that would be a bad thing, but I am definitely not trying.  Being relatively short (5'4") is a mixed blessing when it comes to weight I think.  When you are carrying a lot extra, it can make you look quite a bit bigger, but when you get close to your goal, every few pounds lost can be really noticeable. 

I have noticed one downside to the weightloss and healthy lifestyle though....  the shopaholic in me is back with a venegence and I find myself wanting to clothes shop all the time again (used to be one of my favorite past times).

Well, I just wanted to share my thoughts (hope I didn't bore anyone too much!).  I hope everyone enjoyed their 4th (didn't get any fireworks on the 4th being in Oz). 

I hope it's not too late to join.  I'm 37 years old with two teenage sons.  My older one will be 17 next month and my younger one is 15 years old.  I'm 5'3" and holding steady around 113 during the week but it usually goes up nearly two pounds after the weekend.

Things are already changing for me.  Sadly, I seem to get more winded during my workouts nowadays.  Whatever weight I do gain seems to take forever to drop.  And, it truly is harder to maintain my weight compared to when I was younger and could get away with eating Oreos all day long without any scale damage.  The pitfalls of being in your 30's. 

This site motivates me to keep working out and to try and eat wisely.

Lulu- Congrats on your 9.5 pounds lost. I am so happy for you.... Congrats to you again.

Levack- MMM! Cheesey Puffs, I can remember how many times I had to march myself out of the store before I grab a bag. Don't let stuff like that make you pig out. I do it sometimes.. Then when I am in the middle of it.. I have to catch myself right away before I eat too much.. In those anger chow downs.. You can find yourself eating 1500 calories in just 5 to 10 mins.. Less than that... So when you feel one of those fits coming on.. Pop some gum.. My Cheeks got one hell of a workout this weekend.. I was poppin gum left and right.. EXTRA! Over and over again. EXTRA!!!!!  So get you some Gum, and keep it on hand. I need to get sme more EXTRA Gum.. I am so out of it, and what I got now.. I really do hate...

Manta- THEY FIT!!!!! Congrats to you. Glad to see you hit your marks. To the question on if you should lose more weight. Enjoy the new you, and if you want lose more weight, then go for it. You will know when you want to lose more.. Congrats again. :)

Happyjoy- Welcome to the group...

Hi everyone.. Now let's fill you in on the past weekend. I am going to pick it up at the date night,Thursday. We went to Apple Bee's and everything was okay. Early that Morning he had picked up my car. Yay me! No more forever fill ups.. Something that is a little cheaper on gas.. I'm so happy about that. I've been on him for months. Get me a smaller car.. Get me something that don't take 50 or 60 to get it to an half a tank I yell.. NOTHING!... Bitch Break up, and look at what we have here.. A car that takes 35 to fill up.... Dinner was great! I paid, and he wanted to know the cost of every F-ing thing, and I was like.. Why? This is my money, and not any of yours thank you very much. You see that's what my problem is with my man. He can be Mr.. Romance when he feel the need to be that. 3 times a year.. I can do this  twice a month, and not lose no more than 100, but still.... Men don't think like us women.. Now! Here is how smooth I was with this date.. Cheap but smart.. I only spent 23.08 on dinner, and then I gave him a cool Tee that he had been asking for. I got that under 10 dollars. We later went for a ride in the new car, and then we didn't get home from all of that sitting and talking at the park until 2 in the morning. Friday, we went to see an fireworks show at my family cookout. After that. We went to Sonic's to have dinner because he knew I wasn't going to eat that junk at the family get together... I just had a chicken sandwich. That's all I needed.. Saturday, We went riding again,  riding in the mountains and stuff. Just looking at all the sites, and things I haven't seen in years... Never have time to ride and look when you got 3 kids yelling she did this to me.. No he did that.. So overall, we had an good weekend together so far. We had today as a break day.. Which was good, because we need to take a break from each other. This weekend was good. Monday.. We all will know what my weight will be like then.. I got to go, I done talked to damn much. So far so good girls. He said, so you are a Pretty Ricky, I can be that. Women rule when it comes to love anyway. We know what we want, and I hope his butt took notes. :) By the way. The kids made it to Helen G.A. Okay! They can have there fun, and I can just hang out and take care of myself. They are going to love the new car when they see it.. I can't wait.. Take care all.. :)

Lynn - it really sounds like things went well for you, thats great.  Continue taking it slow and maybe it will remind him of what important in a relationship.  I agree, breaks are a good thing (I wish I could take one from my husband sometimes!).  But seriously, everyone needs their own time no matter what the situation.  Thats great about the smaller car.  I had to chuckle about that one as gas is even more expensive here in Oz than it is in the states (we are paying about $5.60 a gallon now!).  Anyway, I have always had a small car (hyundai excel), but my husband insisted on getting a jeep cherokee... and as gas prices have risen, he is ALWAYS bitching about it.  My solution, get rid of it and get soemthing smaller, but he isn't willing to part with it YET.  Oh well, as long as he is paying for the gas right?  Riding in the mountains sounds WONDERFUL!  ANd so relaxing, good for you!

Hope everyone else had a great weekend too!

Hello, everyone.  I just turned 30 in May, and was really dreading it.  I'm okay with it now, but really feel like I haven't accomplished all the things I wanted to, before I hit 30.  I've never been thin in my whole adult life, I started gaining weight around 3rd or 4th grade.  I currently weigh in around a devastating 275 pounds.  I look like I'm 8 months pregnant, and wear a size 24.  It's funny how you think to yourself, oh, I'll never let myself get that way, or how could anyone let themselves get that bad...but life just happens, and before you know it, there you are...30, unable to get pregnant because of excess weight, stuck wearing the ugly clothes, and not as happy as you had once hoped at this point in your life.  I'm not completely unhappy, I'm married to a wonderful man, have 4 wonderful psuedo-kids (2 cats and 2 dogs), my family loves me, I have a good job and a roof over my head, but lately, something just seems to be missing.  My goal weight is 150.  I know you are supposed to lose weight in baby steps, but it just seems so overwhelming.  So, now that I'm done with the pity party, here is what I'm going to try to do...My work is having a contest..a 12-week program where we try to lose weight healthily and gain better habits.  At the end of the 12 weeks, whoever has the most points wins -  $750 for first prize, $500 for second and $250 for third.  I think it's really awesome that they are doing this, as money is a pretty good motivator.  I'm also planning on joining a popular support group again, and my sister and I are checking in with each other weekly.  I'm really good about getting excited and vamped up, ready to go to town with new ideas, it's just the sticking to them-part, that I have trouble with. 

Okay, I think I'm done venting...thanks for listening, and good luck to all of you here.  I know I'm not alone, and that means a lot.  To our 30's!

Hi Everyone,

May I join you! 

A little about me:  I am 34, with an 8month old.  I have 20lbs to lose I am currently 163lbs (5’5) and I am looking to go down to my pre pregnancy weight of 140 to 145. 

I started my weight lose journey in January and lost 11 lbs and after that I have been on every diet you can name and I have not be able to stick to anything!!

I really want to lose the weight!

Welcome to the new people!

Libtay, small changes, as you said, baby steps.  Keep at it, you can lose the weight and just because you feel like you haven't done all the things you want to yet, just look at how much you have to look forward too.  You have so much life ahead of you, and if you take control now, you still have plenty of time to have a baby (or two, or three....).  Set some mini goals for yourself, and give yourself some well deserved rewards for every 10/20/30 lbs, whatever you think is reasonable.  Believe me, weight loss can become very addictive as long as you don't get too discouraged by the little bumps along the way.

 ttmckoy - good job on the first 11 pounds, and you WILL lose the weight, use the calculators here to help you figure out how much to eat and maybe that will get you jumpstarted back onto the right path

Thanks Libtay...I am looking forward to chatting with you all…I am on my way home to empty my cabinets of junk food...I may have to fight my boyfriend....wish me luck!

I really need to do everything in my power to lose this weight!

Welcome everyone!

Today is a day where I feel like giving up. However, I am NOT going to. I don't like what I see in the mirror, so I am going to keep going. I know we all probably have days like this. Just got to get thru it. I am not weighing in this week because I know I gained a few back from this weekend. I'm just not going to worry about it till next week.

All I have to say is Rain..Rain..Go AWAY!  Being stuck inside with the kids is kind of stressful.

Lulufit- Don't give up. When I lived in Washington state it nearly rained through every 4th of July, it was tough being stuck inside with the kids.  Maybe you can get a membership to a gym that has a day care facility so that you can work out indoors.  Or, you can try out different fitness DVD's. 

The sun will come out and you and the cuties can run amok in the park.  You'll all feel so much better.

Hang in there Lulufit....I know how it is!

Hi everyone,

Boy! We got some new people again.. WOW! That's good. Love to see new people. Welcome:)

Manta, We are doing very well. I can't stop glowing really. Loving the new ride. I can't wait for the kids to see it. My oldest is going to love it. That's the car she is going to learn how to drive in.. We are doing great. Sometimes we need a little break. As for Gas where you are at.. GGEEEEEE! I have to stay here. It's not any better, 3.99 my boyfriend said that to me twice today.. Don't you know the gas is 3.99, and I was like. Don't you know I have an hair appointment on Friday.. SO who cares about the gas.. I need a relaxer bad. We are just happy and fine now.

Libtay, Welcome to the group. You will find your fit. Just take baby steps.

TTmckoy73, Welcome to the group, and congrats on your 11 pounds. Cute pie in the pic is well worth the pounds. Mom you will get them off. Take baby steps on cleaning out all the junk, because you are on a diet don't mean he is on a diet. (You have to do undercover food trade outs on him...) Weight watchers has good treats you both can eat.

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! 

lynnhaslost-  thanks for the advice regarding the cabinet clearing you are right he is not on a diet I am....although he needs to be, but that's another story....and he should start in his own time. Of course it was a battle clearing the cabinets and he won!   Which means my will power will have to be VERY strong.

TTmckoy73, you are so welcome. You can start with little steps. I started with not trying to eat the chips. Those was my number 1 weakness, and then after the chips. I cut down my candy intake by 80%, but when I get upset, candy will become my fall back. Now, I go for sugar free candy or I have to have the gum. You can also write down how you feelings. How you are feeling inside? Like when I start to want something off the wall.. I go back and I start to think about what I ate today. I look at how much of what I had. If I had enough of this. Eating enough protein and fiber helps me stay from all the extra cravings. Give that a try.

Everyone, My boyfriend has lost 8 pounds since he started doing this on his own, and I didn't have to seek the weight loss on him. I forced a diet on him, and that started a mini war. Now he is doing it own his own. We are on week 2. :) Wendy, I am no longer undercovering his butt. He biked 7 miles yesterday and I ran 5 on the treadmill. We are working out together. Things are still going pretty good. :) Oh, and the new car takes 30 to fill up. Better than 150 perweek in the truck. 80 a week in my mini van. I love this car. Chat you all later... :) Take care