Motivation

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

I know I should really try for 140..I'm 5.6  but its a very overwhelming goal and I've never achieved that weight in a healthy way.  I think the lowest weight I ever got down to was 165 in a healthy way.  From there it was anorexia and bulmia...

i'd ideally like to be 140, too, sconry. we're the same height, so that would theoretically be a good weight for us. but i'm realistic. i'm always gonna have big boobs, and an ass, and at 140 lbs, i think i might look skinny, not thin. i don't wanna be skinny. i want to look, and be, healthy. and i don't want to lose my T&A. so 150, even if it sounds high, is a number i'm trying to get comfortable with. although, 150 or 140, i'll be hella smaller than i am now!

I feel the same way. I don't want to be "skinny" just healthy looking.  I carry quite a bit of weight in my chest and behind too but also a TON of weight in my midsection so I'd just ideally like to get rid of that and my flabby arms :)  I'm 5'3" so I'm aiming for 175 as my initial goal (hoping that would put me at a size 14) and 135 as my ultimate goal.  Not sure what to put down for the goal dates since I lose more than 2 lbs a week right now but know that that will slow down the lighter I get.  I'm currently at 278 but was above 320 when I started.  I joined weight watchers in the hopes of being more consisted.  The program is run through work and is about 4 months.

Hey ladies good morning,  I am 5' 5.5" and I would love to get down to 160 my big goal is 150 but I think I would be fine at 160.  Hey watchmeshine glad to see you here. hope all have a great day.

 

Good morning everyone!

You know I was thinking about the whole goal weight thing too... I don't know that it's physically possible for me to hit my goal weight (140lbs), 'cuz I'm just a big muscular girl.  The last time I weighed 140 I was 13 it was just a brief stopover on my way to 160 in high school.  But then it also seems weird to me that my body could look its best at 150 or even 160.  I know the number's not supposed to matter, but for some reason that just sounds so big to me!  I think it's because when I was in high school and at that weight I still felt fat all the time, especially compared to the tiny girls I went to school with.  Even if 160 happens to be the perfect weight for me, am I still going to feel like a fat girl forever?  I think that's why I'm aiming for 140lbs...

Hey girls!

I'm not aiming for my goal weight. The site said I should aim for 140 I think.... I don't think so!!!  I'm aiming for 170. If I got much smaller than that, I think I'd look weird... way too small. My sister is about the same height as me and weighs about 180 and she's very athletic, so I'm aiming for around that.

On another note.... I'm soooo discouraged today :(
I weighed myself this morning and I'm 1.5lbs heavier than I was yesterday morning! WTF?!  I had over a 700 calorie deficit yesterday and I've had between a 500-1000 calorie deficit since I started!  I just don't get it... it makes me so sad...
I guess this is why I should only weigh once a week. But then, if I only weighed once a week and went up, I'd be even more upset about it. Blah... sorry, just venting. This sucks...

Fist off id like to thank you all for being so supportive, sonni im sure your just going through what i did over the weekend, give a day or two and things will be back to normal. 

 i just wanted to share my little dilemma with you all;

ok yesterday i was out most of the day with freinds, subsiquently i ended up having a veggie burger and chips for lunch and a handful of chips and a packet of crisps for dinner, to me this is not only grossy fatty and nothing close to what i sually eat but, hey, i was with freinds celibrating.

The reason i was so preplexed is when i was puttinging yesterdays cals and 'exercise' ( two hours of house cleaning before i went out and the two hours of walking around town) it turns out i consumed 15,07 cals?? and burned 15,77 cals???

so yesterday i ended up with -70 cals?? what do i do now? i'm worried that i might go into starvation mode and screw up my weight loss, do i just forget it and move on or do i eat more today?? ahh i dont know, any advice would be greatly appriciated, cheers.x

Yeah. I totally don't have a goal weight. I'm a big girl, and I'm always going to be big. Nothing is going to get rid of my hips and shoulders! (which make me seem bigger than I am, fat wise). So, I'm just going to lose until I think I look good. If that's at 180, fine. If that's at 150, fine. Those charts don't take into account body SHAPE or SIZE at all! So screw them!

Sonini - The body changes so often throughout the day, I'm sure you're fine! Just drink a lot of water and keep on doing all the things you know you should do, and I'm sure you'll be fine! *hugs* Don't let it get to you too much!

Miss - I seriously doubt you're going to go into starvation mode for one day of extra eating/exercise. I'd say, just forget it and move on. One day isn't enough to mess anything up!

Hey girls

My name is Chelsea, I'm 22, and I am hoping to lose another 50-60 lbs...  I agree with feddiechick though, I think I'll always be a big girl.  That doesn't mean that we can't be fit and feel like we look great! 

I'm usually not much of a forum type, but you all do so well encouraging each other, so I'll give it a shot.  We can all use a little boost!

Sonini - Don't stress about that 1.5lbs!  You might be retaining a little more water, or something completely random like that.  Next week at this time you might be down 3lbs; bodies are weird about day-to-day weight like that, so don't let it get you down!

Missfaybel - Don't worry about the -70 calories.  I was terrified of starvation mode when I first joined this site, because everyone warns you about it, but there's actually a little more leeway than people would have you think, especially for people who are fairly overweight like us.  One day of eating 70 (or even like 150) calories below what you're supposed to won't put you in starvation mode.  You shouldn't make a habit of it, but I wouldn't stress about it either. :-)  

Welcome Chelsea! :-)

*sigh* thanks guys.
I think when it comes right down to it, I know that it's just water weight or some kind of a fluctuation.... it's just hard after consistently losing, and then you have that first day that the scale doesn't move, or goes up! eek

Original Post by missfaybel:

GRR!, just stepped off the scales from my thrid weekly weigh in and apparently ive put three of the pounds i thoght i'd lost back on?

i'm trying to console myself with the fact that ive lost 3lb's a week since ive started but i cant help bt feel a little cheated.

I have been keeping to around 2000 cals but i suppose i have been quite lazy this week,(ive got an eliptical trainer in the next room that have only used once, motivation to exercise is a real problem for me.

meh, ah well i sppose ill try to eat healthier cals (yes i did eat a macdonalds meal one day!) this week and attempt to exercise, actually that shouldnt be such a big deal as were moving house in two weeks and i need to crack on with the cleaning/packing, oh the joy!, my new hous, that right house, not a crappy student flat, is beautiful!

hmm, i seem to have ranted a little, oops, well anyway, well done to all of you for losing/maintaing/staying on track! xx

 I can empathize with you, missfaybel.  The exact thing happened to me this week, except it was 4 pounds.  I really haven't exercised much this week, probably ate too much sodium, and I've slacked on the water drinking, so hopefully eating more uncooked veggies and fruit with lots of extra water will help bring me back to where I was.  It's probably the same thing for you too.  How's the packing/cleaning going?  I dream about the day that we will have our own house.  What a great feeling for you!

Melanie 

chelsealoney- Your skydiving pic is awesome!  Welcome to the group!

sonini- I completely agree with allydan's idea that you're probably just retaining water.  Just be sure to drink extra water and try not to eat too much prepared food (make your own with less salt or even better go raw for a day or 2). 

feddiechick, sonini, allydan, watchmeshine82, dalmalama, scorny- I can totally relate to what you all are saying about your goal weight.  I'm also having a tough time imagining my own body in the 140's.  That's also where CC+ puts me, but I felt very good at 155-160.  I guess we'll all have to keep at it and evaluate when the time is right.

jpetty5- Thank you for the kind words. 

Thanks for accepting me into the group everyone! I know we all have really bad days where we eat things we shouldn't, but I just try not to look back and the day after I've eaten something I shouldn't I just try to really watch what I eat to kind of make up for what I overate the previous day. I don't cut out my recommended calories or anything, I just try to make smarter choices. I can't buy the things that I know I can't control myself with.. for instance sugary cereal , I go crazy with that stuff, same with potato chips. So, I just don't by them anymore. Plus they're empty carbs so they end up making me even more hungry!  I am also trying to only eat out once a week and I will have what I want when I eat out but I try not to go over my recommended calories by more then 200-300 calories because I know any more then that would be a bit hard on my weight loss efforts. I have a tip for a good motivator to use the elliptical/treadmill I always keep a book with me to read while doing the treadmill so that I can treat the gym as quality reading time, and not really a "work out". I think when the word work is used we all tend to think that its something thats going to be very hard and not fun at all! Also having good music to work out is really important especially on the eliptical so I can have something to push me along! I haven't gotten to the point where I love going to the gym yet. I still kind of dread it on some days. And I really shouldn't because I sit on my butt all day so it usually feels good to get moving. With my job I don't have a lot of chance to get up and move around, so I end up feeling like a big lazy slob if I don't do anything. I think this group will be great though we can all motivate one another and keep one another on track :) Thanks again for your kind welcome.

vintagebetty- Whoops!  I think I left off my words of welcome to you!  I think the whole purpose of this thread is to help all gals feel comfortable about this journey to a healthy weight.  Even if you don't have 100 pounds to lose, you have encouragement to give to the rest and a place where you can also be lifted up.  Welcome to the group; we're happy you found us!

Guys I have a confession to make.... I have been "stalking" y'all.......  Not really, what I mean is I have been in here reading y'alls posts everyday but didn't have the guts to post one of my own.  I am 22 years old (23 in June) and got started on CC mid January. I started out @ 227 and am down to 215 so far (my ultimate goal is 130). I joined a couple of other forums and felt a little silly or like I was "cheating" for joining more than one, but I think it's so funny how when I was in the other forums and someone who weighed 115 pounds was bitching about plateauing I would think in my head "I hate you for complaining  because I have to loose as much as you currently weigh!!" and then immediately I would feel like a horrible evil person for thinking it because whether we are here trying to loose 100+ pounds or just 20 all we want is support. It is awesome though to see so many people who mirror my goals!      &nb sp;               &nb sp;               &nb sp;               &nb sp;               &nb sp;        I can really Identify with so many of you , I am married and have a two year old and hope to have another baby once I reach a healthy weight. One of my friends is like "Dude, have the baby first then loose the weight otherwise you will do double work having to loose it all again." Even though that somehow makes sense there's no way I can do it. My first baby was a preemie due to me having preclampsia which is basically a fancy term for very high blood pressure. It was horrible going home w/o my baby and having the thought in my head that it was my fault for being a selfish fatty. So to wrap up (since I have all ready rambled on and on) the point of joining CC for me is not only to lose weight but to be a healthy person that doesn't pass her emotional eating habits on to her kids and to make good friends who will support me all the way!

Hi ladies,

 Vintagebetty,  I can really relate to you about not getting the things I know I can't control myself around.  If I do get potato chips I have been getting the light ones and I have to count out a portion.  I so can not eat (really anything) out of a bag or I just go to town.  My husband really loves Mexican food well I do too but I have been getting fajitas and trying only to eat the meat with one or two tortilla's. Well last week we got it our food to go and when I got home there was about 10 flour tortillas in the bag I have found out I can't be trusted with flour tortilla's I ate 5 or 6 of them.  I felt so bad afterwards.  I told my husband from now on if we do that again I am going to ask them to only put like 3 in the bag one for each of us.  (my 2 yr old loves them).  Sorry for the strange out of place story I think I had to just get out that I ate that many tortilla's. 

 Yessica,  I am in the same place I have a 2 yr old and would like to have another child.  I also would love to be at my goal weight before I get pregnant.  People have told me the same thing about why lose the weight just to put it back on but I plan on really watching what I eat when I am pregnant.  I know that there will be times when I don't always do great but I can at least try.  It took me 3 yrs to get pregnant with my little girl and I think my weight had a lot to do with that.  I was 263 lbs when I started my pregnancy at the end I was 258 and when I had her I was 233.  Nobody could believe I lost so much weight while I was pregnant everyone asked me how I did it.  I just tell people I already ate enough for two why would I have added to it.  I am really disappointed in myself that I put that weight back on but I figured out I didn't change my eating habits she was just eating the extra calories so if I would have changed my eating habits after I had her I could have kept that off.  Again sorry for the out of place story guess I just fell like sharing today.

And to any new members that I have missed, Welcome!

 

 

 

 

 

I have to admit I'm annoyed with some people on here and shouldn't be I should understand but at 230 reading posts about someone who is normall 110 and then they are upset because they are 112 is ridiculous in my oppinion.  I know that is a a real concern for that person, but it just irriates me.  Am I that wrong?  To me that sort of fixation and I know because I had and one my self, screams eating  disorder.

 I don't know dieting is really hard for several reasons.  One is knowing when to draw the line when are you going to far and when are you not going far enough?  I can never find a happy medium.

 

I confess... I also get annoyed when someone who is like 110lbs is bitching about not being able to lose 5 pounds. Like seriously.... 
Ok, I can't really even get into it because it's way too complicated of a topic and it really does just piss me off.
Generally, if I start reading a post and it says "I'm 16 and 110lbs and I need to lose 10lbs"..... I just stop reading. Sometimes, I'd really like to speak my mind, but at the same time, I don't want to discourage someone else from doing what they feel they need to do.
Some people just don't know what it's like to really be overweight. And they never will. Lucky them.
<end rant>  :)
At the end of it all, I just remind myself how happy I am that I will NEVER be like that... and that I'm happy with myself at 300lbs... so just imagine how happy I will be when I'm half that! :)

 (and yes, I do realize that I was on here earlier bitching about 1.5lbs, lol... but that's different... at least I think it is.... ok, call me a hypocrite... lol)