Motivation

So I have seen teen, 20's, 40's, 50's and beyond, but no 30's group.  So would anybody like to get something started?  Not sure where to begin hmmmm

I guess being in our thirties our metabolism has not hit a wall just yet, but it certainly isn't what it was in the 20's.  Don't you miss those days?  Anything you want and as long as you did maybe one sport in high school, then no worries.  Ohwell on to real life where nothing seems to be on schedule.

Let hear your thoughts.

Wendy,

We just did his BMI/ BMR, and a few other things on Men's Health. When he saw his BMI he didn't understand the numbers. Then when he got the understanding we did his measurements.. I use to be a size 38/40 in men.. Womens... More on the lines of 20/22 something like that. Anyway, I love men jeans and I use to wear them... He was like.. Okay... That was an upset.

He was like.. I use to be a size 32/34 and I was okay with an 36 what happen to me.. I said... HUG me... It's going to be okay.. Welcome to the how did this happen time zone.

I'm not going to go into the how did this all happen. He's 190, and he was 135 once apond a time in high school.. I understand when we started dating he was 165, and during 2007 x mas he was 205, and now he is like.. I lost some weight, and I better be happy about that.. But that don't count. I told him.. Don't count because you was never knew what I was really doing, but in away had an idea.

I'm not going to put stock into this yet, but I am sure he is going to be okay with losing weight once he wrap his head around it.

Thanks a ton again... I will keep on tossing a keep on moving prayer for you and your family... We have to make change somewhere to get the change. I made it in me, and I wanted to force it on my mate. I guess it takes the right set of words coming from someone who knows a lot better....  I'm going to pray for you all... 

Have you read ( A NEW EARTH) AWAKENING TO YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE
AUTHOR ECKHART TOLLE. If you have not... Pick it up and give it a read..

Ok, so here's the latest....I am still only mentally preparing for a running program. I still want to do it, its just going to take me awhile to get there. MANTA, thanks for that response. I am glad that you understand what I mean when it takes me so long to "mentally prepare"!  So, while I am preparing for the running program, I am going to purchase one of those Biggest Loser workout videos. I thought that might be a little better for me to have something i can just do inside....that way the kids can do it with me or I don't have to NOT do it because it is raining. I am thinking I can sneak it in while the baby is napping.

As far as husbands go, my husband is going to join this site too. He doesn't have a lot to lose, but he has high cholestreol and blood pressure. All he really has to do it quit drinking soda and beer and he can lose 20 pounds! Why is it so much easier for men?!  Oh well. It will help me to have him on board. I am very competitive, so he will help me keep going and not give up.

I HAVE to keep going. I hate looking at my reflection in the window, or to see my shadow. Then I see how big I really am and it sucks. I want to be sexy in my 30's.

Hi April,  Have you thought about zizagging your calories?   People talk about having a cheat day,  I have cheat days.  LOL  Not losing as fast as my teenage self would like, but Im hitting that 1.5 lb a week so Im happy.   Im suppose to be shooting for 1560 calories a day.  At least three days a week I eat more than that but less than my burn meter says Im burning.  The rest of the week, I either hit the 1560 right on the money or go below it.   Its suppose to fool your Metabolism into thinking nothing has changed.  

Truth is nothing has changed for me.  Im still eating what I always ate.  I just cut out the Mt Dews and chocolate.  I was driniking 3 16 oz bottles of Mt Dew a day.  Sad so very very sad, I know.

 

 

Thanks wendy :)  I think my body has finally stabilized and is now ready and willing to start losing weight again.

lynn, sounds like your BF is starting to come around, I look forward to updates.  I got a giggle out of your undercover workouts, and then when I looked at your profile pics, you have a shirt on that says undercover (can't read the rest), LOL!  I got a laugh out of that :)

ladykelien, sounds like you're doing great!  1.5 lbs a week is 6 lbs a month, that's awesome!

At the very start of my weight loss journey all I had to do was stop drinking 6 or more (!) cups of coffee and/or tea a day.  It wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't for the milk and 2.5 tsp sugar in each cup.  I was drinking away a lot of calories.  That's still something I struggle with in the winter.. nothing like a good cup of tea!

And chocolate?  Oy!  Such weakness.  I have to break myself off one piece and give the rest to hubby and tell him not to give me any more!  He'll munch on the rest over the next week or two... whereas I'd happily finish off the whole thing in one sitting.

lulufit, I hear you about men and how fast they can lose weight!  Hubby got a bit of a tummy and then went on a week long hunting trip.  He came back 7 lbs lighter and much leaner.  Still something he has to watch all the time, and when his jeans start to "shrink" (haha!) again then he knows he needs to reduce the amount he's eating.. the weight just melts off of him.

Original Post by colorado_sunshine:

 

At the very start of my weight loss journey all I had to do was stop drinking 6 or more (!) cups of coffee and/or tea a day. It wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't for the milk and 2.5 tsp sugar in each cup. I was drinking away a lot of calories. That's still something I struggle with in the winter.. nothing like a good cup of tea!

I have to say, my half and half is one thing I FLAT out refuse to lose.  Lately I've been splurging on the flavored ones so I can skip sugar entirely.  For me, the fat is needed...and the calories I can SOOOO justify.  That said, it would be harder if this were winter and I was downing 3x as much coffee!

Question: This has been nagging at me for weeks but I've had no one to ask...so hi, oh wise and knowing interweb "friends"! 

I definitely get hunger cues now, which is something I'd not really experienced in decade plus.  It's great, in a weird way.  That said, WHY when I know there's nothing in there, do I constantly feel bloated and "full" (all while running on empty if that makes any sense)?  I mean, yeah, I've definitely put on the inches in the belly, and having ALWAYS had a disproportionately smaller waist than the rest of me, perhaps it's just a weird psycho hyper-awareness of it.  I've for sure noticed a shrinkage in my waist in the last couple of weeks, but the 'feeling' is still there.

Am I nuts here?  I mean, I could be imagining things.  It wouldn't be the first time something was all in my head.  I've been known to have a whole inner soap opera going on.   Papa, can you hear me???

Sorry.  I've been up since 2:30am and I'm losing it.  My insomnia MUST be a female cos no man has ever been this loyal to me .

Colorado Sunshine, It's undercover police.. When I wear it out in public. I get these very hard looks, not only that.. People come up to me and ask me is it ture.. I don't answer, I just smile and keep on moving. I can't wear it to the gym... LOL, but I do wear every once in a while. He has came around. He did take a smart one with him this morning, and asked for an large chicken salad for dinner. I'm not going to jinks this... I'm going to support it. My mother said to me.. "Now you have nothing to bitch about. What's next?" Nothing but happiness.

Lulufit, I wish I could lose weight that fast. I have to work hard to lose weight. All he has to do is wink, and 10 pounds are gone like that. LOL... He starts to eat healthy, just by changing his foods... He lose 15 pounds like that. I change food, and I still have to put in 30% more work. But hey! We got to love them huh.

Music, I had to learn what was what. Easy, I went on a very low carb diet, and I learned... I need carbs or I will get head aches. I need over 70 to 80 oz of water a day to move 1 pound per week, and to keep the bumps off my face. I don't eat a lot of sodium I don't have blood pressure problems, but since I cut pork and any heavy salt out over 3 years ago... I can't deal with too much or my blood pressure will shoot to the roof if not past it. Been checked out over and over, and I don't have any blood pressure problems.. My doctor just calls it change of habit, and my body just don't know how to handle high levels of salt/sodium-whatsoever. I've even gotten so good that I can tell whem a mood swing of eating is going to come on.. Anger/Stress/Depression, what have you.. I know how to stop it right in it's tracks. My bloat and gas.... That comes when I too much raw foods period for me... I hate it.. So I take beano, but that crap really don't work at all. Oh, and the heart burn.. I can't deal with that, and sometimes that's linked to the gas and bloat.. Changing your diet can bring forth a lot of things you don't want to deal with. You think your body was doing so much better on the other junk, but it takes time for the body to get use to the change. I wish you nothing but luck.

Mystic,  Have you had your spinal allignment checked lately?   I tend to throw mine out right between my shoulder blades.  THe nerves in there control your digestive system and stomach.  Anytime my back is out of whack, I feel bloated and as if I just ate when I know I haven't eaten anything.   In fact, thats how I know how to eat when those nerves are pinched.  Its the last thing I want to do, but its like with the nerve pinched the only thing my stomach can do to let me know Im hungry is to make me feel like throwing up.  Once I eat, Im fine.

For the record you can be out of alignment and not even know it.   I fell when I was about 16 months old.  No one thought about my back and hips because I cut the corner of  my eye open.   When I was 15  I got a job working on a farm and three days later couldn't move.   Mom took me to an Ostopath who took one look at the x rays and informed us I didn't do that kind of damage picking peas.

Without the job, I would have found out when the school checked my alignment that next year and they would have wanted me put in a back brace (shudders)  

You don't have to go to the doctor to check your spinal alignment.  Just get down on all fours in cat pose and have someone run their finger slowly down your spine.   You want your back arched so they can feel every vertibra in your back.  If they do it slowly one by one they will be able to tell if something is out of sorts or not.  It kind of makes itself obvious.  If it is, make an  appointment with your doctor.  He should be able to find you an Ostopath (real MD that does what a carpractor does) or a carpractor in your area that can help.

 

 

Lynn, Thank you so much for your support and prayers. Sounds like your bf is coming around! I checked my library catalog online and reserved that book.. I'm not sure when I will get- hopefully not too long!

lulufit, thats great you are getting a workout video- thats what I am doing until this fall when our new YMCA will open. I wish my husband would join this site! I dont think he would ever take the time to count his calories though *sigh*

ladykelien, wow- 3 bottles of mt dew a day? Have you gone through any caffeine withdrawals? I cant drink mt dew.. not since I was a teenager -ugh makes me sick. Congrats on your 1.5/ week.. I dont think i am quite there yet, although I had a few setbacks with vacations and all.

I guess I am lucky- I have never been a coffee drinker.. just never acquired a taste for it. I have been starting to drink tea now.. but I drink it straight with no sugar, milk or anything. I try to drink at least 2 cups a day, usually in the morning. As of the past few weeks or so I have pretty much only been drinking water, about 2 cups of skim milk/ day, and my 2 cups tea/ day. I am trying to quit sodas altogether and have juice only on occasion. I dont drink alcohol very often either.. I had an episode with bacardi and diet coke a couple of months ago and dont want that again! I lost count on how many I had.. maybe 7 or more? I had my head in the toilet the entire night and next day- blah! My hubby had a good chuckle anyway.

musicismydestiny, I kind of get that 'full' feeling too.. I dont know what that is all about either..so you are not alone anyway!

 

Hey ladykelien, I'm not sure if you meant me or not but I'll run with it.

I actually have 2 cervical herniated discs.  After a YEAR of having no insurance and getting help here and there, I finally was referred to a spine center and a neurologist.   After 4 months of him ordering pricey MRI after pricey MRI, he finally SAW me again, and told me not to bother (after he "reviewed" (read: looked at my charts IN THE ROOM WITH ME for the first time since he'd seen me 4 months ago and got himself caught up).  Go find a mind-body wellness person.  No chiropractic.  No PT.  No cortisone shots (and they ARE herniated enough to go that route).  Just (and I quote) "learn how to deal with chronic pain".

I let him have it.  I've never been so disgusted with the medical profession in my life.  Incidentally, this is the same doc who ordered a brain scan for me because I had an abnormality.  Scary, right?  Good thing he NEVER called me with the results, and then when I asked him at that last appointment, he said "Why did you get a brain scan?".

So, here I am 5 months later with the same injury, so I suppose perhaps it could have something to do with it.   Just another reason I need to find a chiro that takes my insurance.  Thanks for the push :)

Wendy, you are welcome... Thanks a ton again. Now when you get that book.. Make sure you have a marking system-like labels or something, because you are going to need it, and make sure you make plans to eat. I mean really. This book will have you miss a meal or two.. I know.. I got it a few weeks ago, but I had to finish another book before I started A new earth... Good so far, and I'm telling you.. I see a lot myself awakening to a lot of things... Right now at this point. I do care if he lose the weight or not, but I can't force him to do this for himself. I have to force myself to stay fit and healthy, and worry about my own 3 children. I know that it's rude to say.. But hey! I have to make room for me, and if no one wants to better themselves.. Then why force it. Read the book, you are going to love it..

Lynn, I'm looking forward to getting that book.. I dont think you sound rude at all- you need to do what you got to do! It took me awhile to come around to the fact that I can only control me, I can only make a change with me and only me, no matter what I do, My husband will not change or do anything unless he wants and chooses to do it. I can encourage him, and suggest to him, and try to influence him- but, he will only do what he chooses to do. As for your kids, they need to do what momma tells them to do- at least until they 18 ;)   You have to look out for your babies.. I am so happy for you that your bf is finally coming around! I really hope the best for both of you. I know my man is trying, I just wish he would try harder!

musicismydestiny, that sounds terrible! please, find a new doctor! There has got to be some good ones out there.. Do you have insurance now?

Lynn ~ I'm reading that book right now! I even printed off all of the workbook questions from Oprah's website to 'get even more out of the reading'...but I am not that far into it. Did you use those questions, too?

I hope everyone else is well!

Daizymae, I really wanted to print off the questions from her site, but I didn't want those questions to enter my own personal feelings or questions. As I was reading the first few pages. I started to label here and there. I mean really. I've read so many great books. But this is the first book I've ever readed that needed sticky tabs here and there... I normally would bend down the corner and go back to it later. I also underline things or mark them in a way with a pink ink pen. Any color that is light.  I was sitting up and as I was reading this book.. Something hit me like a ton of bricks.. I took an index card, and I wrote down how I felt. It hit in Dysfunction.

 OUR INHERITED DYSFUNTION-PAGE 8

dukkha -  Buddhism, uses different terms. According to the Buddha, the human mind in it's normal state of generates dukkha, which can be translated as suffering, unsatisfactoriness, or just plain misery.

There was one other that stood out, but nothing like this one. dukkha, and I was like.. Okay. I'm hit. I see something here. I looked at my weight gain, and my weight loss, and how it would come on with the unblanced mood swings in my life. I looked at my unhappy marriage and how it ended, and how I vowed to never marry again.  Then I wrote this down. I'm not shamed to share it with anyone.

Relationships- I don't know how to deal with relationships or with hurt or rejection. Its like going to the gym with me.. Back then.. I was so hung up on the rejection.  Will they like me.... That was my problem, that became part of my suffering and misery. The human mind can take you on roads of dysfunction if you don't know how to deal with it. PERIOD! It's like everyone has a leader some where, and it's good to follow the teaching of someone, and it's also good for you to be the leader of your own life, and what you are going to do next with your life. I let relationships control my life out come for over 15 years.. Puppy love on down to family, parents "mines", child hood, adult hood, love, marriage, and relationships.. My dysfunction came from many miles back. Many years back. I can't walk back and correct the past life, but I can fix those things. That's what I got.

So, back to what I was saying. I didn't print off her question, just because.. I would have gotten- too wraped up into the questions others had, and not focusing on what this book is going to bring into my life. Everyone veiw things differently. Just like the Bible.. Read to show yourself approved.. What I get from the book of John may be something different from what you get. I think it's good she had this class, but I really wanted to just understand this book first before I printed off the questions.. Just went out and got a note book for this book, and I will not rush into this book. Read things over and over again if you have too... Trust me.. If it don't hit you the first time... It will hit you again.. Because your mind is going to be like.. What did I just read? That's so true! Man, where did this person come from. You don't know how many times I looked at the back cover of this book to see if I can see one of the great saints in this man.

Every thing has been clicking and clicking with me.. This is not a book you pass on to a good friend. No! Tell them to get there own copy.. LOL...

 

lynn, wow- maybe I will just go to the bookstore instead of waiting for the library.. you cant mark up the library book! Maybe I'll check amazon..

Wendy, Get this book for you. I love this book, I have to force myself to take it slow and study what I just read. Understand it, and pull it all into my soul. Sometimes I don't have to pull. It just grabs you. I don't have to reach deep in my soul for those awakening moments. They grab me only because.. I've always been on a journey to my own balance and greatnest with myself. That's how I was able to lose the weight and not gain it back... Trust me... You better eat with this book. I'm not hungey, and I haven't been turly since I started to read this book a few days ago. The side of my book looks like an rainbow. Marker here, a little underline there... A light bulb here... That's what my book looks like on the inside.

I told a girl friend of mines I had the book, and she said. When you get done, I would like to read it. I said..... Honey! Get your own copy, because my copy has mark tabs here, and underlines there and other markings....

It's a AHA book I told her.. You don't share AHA books.

Lynn, i just ordered it on amazon.. wont get it for a few weeks though. Thank you in advance! I had a Reward certificate for $25 so I got the book and I also ordered a pack of highlighter markers with sticky tabs- so I can make my book look like a rainbow too :) . and also a new scale for my bathroom..since orders over $25 get free shipping right now..

My hubby went in got an MRI on his leg yesterday.. I think I mentioned here before about him hurting his leg playing hockey? The docs in the ER thought he probably tore a ligament, and he wore a brace for awhile and then last week got to his regular doctor to check it out, who ordered the MRI.. Anyway, this morning he called the office for the results, and turns out he has a stress fracture below his knee! what the heck! He's been walking around on a broken leg for almost 2 weeks now! So I gotta take him to an orthopedist this afternoon to find out what they are going to do.. I dont know if he will need surgery, or just a cast or what. He did have an x-ray in the ER, so maybe it isnt such a bad break since they missed it.

 

wow, you get sick and aren't on the computer for a day and things really take off.  I woke up yesterday and honestly felt like I was going to die.  Not to mention I did something to my back right under my right shoulder blade at the beginning on the week and it is excruciating to sit around for too long.  Combine that pain with the aches and pains of a fever yesterday and I was ready to just go crawl under a rock.  I am now on my second day home from work, although I am feeling MUCH better, and may try to go for a walk/run in a little while.  Plus, I called to try to book a massage for the afternoon before I have to pick my daughter up at daycare and they actually had an opening at 3 pm, couldn't have been more perfect had I planned for it.  So hopefully, after a little more rest, some fresh air, and a massage, everything will start to feel back to normal. 

I am going through SERIOUS running withdrawl atm, but I don't want to push things too much, so I might just do a easy miles and walk if I have to to see how things go.

 

Wendy, I KNOW RIGHT?  Remember those teachers you had in school who were about 100 years old and really couldn't give a crap past a paycheck anymore?  Meet that doctor.  I do now have insurance, but my primary provider dumped me because I hadn't scheduled an appt and she needed to clear her load for more patients (uh, didn't schedule one because I didn't really think the FOUR MONTH WAIT was worth my time)---so now I have to hunt down a new one, which is bordering on impossible around here.  It's all a mess, really.

Lady---got your email, haven't added friends so I couldn't respond but thank you so much!  I'm in the process of hunting down a new chiropractor, and once I get my car back tomorrow (4. effing. weeks.) I'm SO on it.  I went to a neuro because they also specialize in spinal issues.  And apparently being a big jackass.

Manta---feel better, lady!  Cheers on taking care of you, and I'm SO right behind you on the massage.  A friend of mine just gave me a number of one of her co-workers who just moved here and is licensed with her own table and will come to ME.  I'm almost giddy with the thought.

Been a crap couple of days and I'm getting frustrated again.  I'm also stressed to the max.  I wonder if stress is hindering my progress?  Of course, there's little outside of the things that are stressing me out going away that will change that...so I'll look forward to a weekend of fun with my best friends and hope for the best.

Wendy, I am glad you went on and got the book.   Doctor's only know money, and oh.. It's just this... Put a band-aid on it, and go see the lady at the front desk.. That pisses me off. That band-aid is going to cost you 50 dollars, and just for the report that you need a band-aid - it's going to be 200. LOL. And we can't for get the room you rented for 3 hours before they got to you... 100 semi private.. LOL.... The aren't going to break it again. It's just a hair line fracture, but some of them have to be placed in a cast. I don't think they are going to rebreak anything. He is just going to take a look at how it's been healing. Maybe even give him a better brace to support the leg.. Tell him to walk the same way he's been walking, and we will see you again in 3 weeks. LOL.... (Maybe it won't go down just like this.)

 Just be thankful that's all that happen with him. I see he loves to play hard. Hard enough to get hurt. Well, I hope the Doctor gives you better news.. 2 weeks walking around on a broken leg.. Man, that's bad. :) He's a tough man.... Anywhoooo! Let me know when you get the book. I want to hear all about your first few pages..... :)

lynn, lol.. you are so right about money and doctors..lucky our insurance pay for most- they oughta as much we pay them! Everythings about money! You were right about the brace too.. Doc said he can wear a smaller brace (the one he got in the ER went from just below his crotch to nearly down to his ankle..lol) and the new one has hinges so he can bend his knee too... told us he should be healed about 3-4 weeks..I thought that was pretty fast. So yeah, he'll go back after a few weeks to check it out and be back to regular activity.  About him being a tough man- I dont know about that.. he's more like a big baby.lol..arent they all though?  Sometimes I think he is made of glass-  you drop him, he breaks ;)

music, ikes! does sound like quite a mess.. Where do you live that doctors are so hard to come by or are booked for months on end? Hope you have better luck with that soon.

manta, I hope you feel better soon.. I suppose it is winter for you right now.. cold and flu season.. blah I hate being sick!