I know exactly where your coming from!! similar sort of events and im still young so its still very clear to me but i suppose you never really get over or forget about things like that! I got bullied badly at my first mixed school and my best friend (who still is my best friend of 17 years) is gorgeous and always has been. The boys used to try and talk to her and then would do things like lock me in the hockey shed so i got in trouble for missing lessons or because they knew i hated the dark. Kids are cruel. That was in year 4 im not sure what the equivalent is in America or elsewhere but i was about 7 i suppose maybe a bit older.

Then i left and refused to go to mix school but it actually was worse with girls! They'd pick on me for being bigger and i wasn't even hugely bigger just puppy fat! Eventually i sort of turned into a bully for it, which i regret now but i felt at the time it was the only way i could defend myself. And i turned into a proper tom boy to hide my lumps and bumps with their baggy clothes! Finally sixth form i went to mixed again and the same thing happened but in a different way, i was generally just ignored even though in sixth form which i left a year early last year i was and still am a size 10/12!!! and considering im 5ft9...i really dont think that is fat!

I agree with you though, i think if i werent bullied i wouldnt have kept changing schools i went to 6 schools in about 3 years coz i kept running away or gettin suspended for being a 'rebel'. If i was slimmer then maybe things would have been different but then i wouldn't be who i am now! And nor would you. You should be happy in yourself :-) take it all as a big test and when you see the people if you ever do that used to bully you you can show them how much they didnt effect you! Chances are you're happier then they are because bullies are only bullies coz they have their own insecurities they can't handle.

I was never fat, actually quite skinny, but I remember always having this preoccupation with being fat. I was diagnosed with lactose intolerance when I was 5, but since I would constantly forget to take my pills when I was younger, I was almost always bloated. Kids would ask me if I was pregnant pretty frequently, and my "best friend" would say things like, "you'd be really pretty if you could just lose your stomach!" Needless to say, it took a toll on my self-esteem.  If that's not enough, I was also a really, painfully shy kid who got bullied throughout grade school and never really "came out of my shell" until high school, and at that point, the emotional damage had been done. Wow am I glad that's over! 

I wasn't just the fat kid... I was a giant compared to the other kids. Grades 6-8 were the hardest. I was 5' 10" and pushing almost 300 lbs. The boys were horrible to me and the girls could be just as nasty at times. I cried every day. Gym class was a nightmare... mostly the presidental fitness test. In 9th grade I lost 40 lbs on Nutri-system. I told my best friend that I had lost 40 lbs, and she said that she couldn't even tell that I had lost any weight. I went off Nutri-system because the food made me sick. I gained back that 40 lbs plus some more. The kids weren't as nasty in high school and I felt less like a giant because they all got bigger and taller.

Clarice!  I hear you sister!  I was 100 lbs in 6th grade.  I know I was in elementary school when my parents (mostly my mom) first brought me to a diet doctor.  Needless to say that didn't work.  Then I did WW with my mother in high school and when I finally got to 232lbs in Junior year my parents sent me to a diet center where they had me on a 900 calorie a day diet and monitored me daily.  That didn't work either.  I've been over 200lbs for almost all of my adult life.  I got down to 150 after I graduated college but went back up to 200+ when I met my husband.  I got down to about 170 for my wedding and then after having 3 kids in 4 years I packed on even more. 

Sure kids made fun of me, and I too have had the random stranger yell out a car window at me and that did affect my self esteem but what I think was the WORST was knowing that my parents (especially my mother) never approved of me.  She was proud I was a good student, got into college, graduated, had a career at age 24, but she is never truly "proud" of me unless I'm losing weight.  And then if I lose too much it's a competition with her.  Can you tell I have issues with my mother?

My niece is a "big girl" not obese but tall and larger for her age.  And my inlaws have handled it wonderfully.  They have repeatedly told her as long as she is healthy, active and happy then that's all that matters.  What I would have given to hear my parents say that once to me...

man, this post kills me. I was always the fat kid, but looking back i was never obese. my mom made me wear a bra in 5th grade and during recess that day my best friend at the time got all our classmates together to play "snap the bra", and made me stand still while everyone in our class stood in line to get their turn to snap the elastic on the back of my bra. It wasn't a first time my best friend made sure to let me know i was heavier than her, she was stick thin and would make fun of my weight daily, i played along because i didn't want to be a winer. i really got it from every female in my life growing up and it just destroyed my self esteem, i still have a hard time not slouching/standing up straight and really trusting any females.

I remember being in high school and wishing i could meet a blind man, because he wouldn't have to look at me. low and behold 18 years later i'm married to a legally blind man.

ok, last one. the "queen bee" of my high school class would say "fat @ss" every time she passed me in the hall (I was a size 14). I ended up dropping out and getting my G.E.D. (not entirely a queen bee related decision, but she definitely nudged me in that direction).

I was always the fat girl since I started school. I was on the smaller side up until about 2nd grade and then after that it seemed like I went up a pant size every year until I topped out in high school at a size 24. I remember walking down the halls in high school hearing mooing and oinking behind me. I'm at least still a size 24, I havent gone up in that, but what annoys me now is that I used to have a flat stomach for a fat chick. But since I started working at the airport I have a bigger stomach and most of my cute shirts wont fit anymore. And I've talked about trying to lose weight with some of the people at work but I'm trying to get some order to my life before I try to start eating right. But these people are sitting across from me at lunch eating the same thing I am and telling me I need to eat better. Some have even gone as far as smacking my hands when they see me eat something "bad". It's so annoying.

ow yes. i was one of the fat kid in school since kindergarten. not obese just overweight til i was 15 years old. then i started starving myself, and lose some weight along the way by not eating rice anymore. and i still remember, when i was 16, i got a really bad gastric. in school, boys didnt really talk to me unless they want answers for their exams n stuff... and boys always talked to pretty skinny girls, not me hehe.. and now i'm way thinner... things change.. a big difference... which makes me wonder... do people really jugde u by your looks? if u r hot n sexy, u will get everything nice... but if u r fat or whatever, u wont get all the nice treatments...

Yep...fan pre-schooler, fat child, fat early teen.

Got bullied - not just for being fat but cos I lost the hearing in my left ear at about 7 and was always saying what?, pardon?

The fat jibes hurt the most but that was then....now I do kickboxing dvds and weight lift and although I'm still 12lbs away from target I reckon that I'm a good person, I deserve to be happy - so "stuff em" as they say in Britain LOL.

When i was first year in high school i went to doctor and the doctor told my mom yep i can help her lose weight i can wire her jaws shut!! I should have reported him to the AMA!!! I can remember a girl i grew up with had the same problem and he wrote her weight on her leg with a majic marker and told her to lose the weight and she did about a year later.  (she basically starved herself to death) that doc should have been turned in too!! Doctors can have such awful bedside manners.

Clarice

I think a lot of people who have weight issues here have problems with either their parents or mother.  My mom was one who would comfort me with food.  She still does it to this day!! She always had sweets in our house growing up too!! I was full yesterday eating lunch at her house and she said "you have to eat some fries too though" i told her no i was full.  She still kept doing it but i told her no, i was full.   I know where your coming from though.

Clarice

Boobi trap, i can relate i was a size 14 in high school and i thought that was huge then i would die to be in a size 14 now!! I wear a size 18 now.  :(


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Clarice - I thought I would tell you I can identify with the Weight Watchers experience too.  My mum and I went together when I was 14.  I'm sure that I shouldn't have been allowed given what I read on CC about teens needing more (I was put on the same plan as my mum!!)

Original Post by jackattack07:

I've literally been the fat girl my ENTIRE life. Literally. One of my earliest memories is being on my preschool bus and a little boy asked me if I was pregnant. I was never a normal weight. Hell, I was born almost 10 pounds. LOL. Sigh.

I know this post is nearly two months old, but I just had to post.

I've been over-weight, if not obese, almost all my life as well.  I had family, relatives, friends of the family, and doctors commenting on my weight constantly.  It really didn't help that I was Asian and therefore the emphasis on being tiny and petite was even greater.  I remember in first or second grade I was already around 30 pounds heavier than everyone in my class and I was always the fattest in my school.  I dreaded gym class as I was always picked last for things and the gym teacher seemed to always pick on me -_-.

At age twelve, I was 5'3 and 190 pounds and was brought to WeightWatchers by my distressed mother.  At first, everything was fine and dandy but I began to eat too little and a half year later, I was 120 pounds.  I was brought to the doctor who had told me to lose weight year after year and she demanded that I stop.  After continuous visits to a nutritionist, the doctor, and a psychologist, I began binging out of frustration and by the time I was sixteen, I was 205 pounds!

I remember eighth grade being the wonderful year being thin and having everyone compliment me.  Boys who used to ignore me or tease me were nicer to me.  Everything seemed to go perfectly that year and I got all A's and A+'s without even trying.  Unfortunately, as I began to pack on the pounds, everything seemed to get progressively worse.  I was horribly ashamed that I had managed to gain back all the weight I lost and more.

Since last May, though, I have begun being healthier and have lost over 60 pounds.  I'm hoping that for my senior year, I won't be the fat girl any more.