Pregnancy & Parenting

I just scanned the "who here is pregnant" topic - and it looks like a lot of you!

I've read that the average is about six months, and that 80% of couples have concieved within 9 months of trying. This will be our third month trying. Just for fun, let's see if the averages hold true - for those who got preg while intentionally trying to concieve - how long did it take? Or for those lurking in here while trying (like me), how long have you been trying?

We have been trying to conceive for 6 months now.  The first couple months...i was almost obsessive about it...now, I am definitely more relaxed. 

I highly recommend the book, "Taking Charge of your Fertility".  It helped me become more in-tune with my body and helped me enjoy this time...and help pinpoint O a LOT better.  I was off by about 6 days for the first couple months so it was almost impossible for us to conceive then!

I am about to O...so keeping my fingers crossed that this month will be it!!

Good luck!

Crossed fingers for you, wilkiea!

I wanted a baby so badly about 5 years ago so we started trying.  I'd been on the pill for over 5 years, and we started ttc as soon as I stopped taking it.  When we still hadn't conceived after a year, I just gave up.   I was so depressed thinking it would never happen.  Month after month of Aunty Flo visiting is the worst!  We started trying again about 2 years later, and I became pregnant the second month of trying.  This time was a total surprise-no trying involved. I just want to offer hope to everyone because I know what it's like waiting for years.  Good luck ladies!

Thanks, cecilyb! I know a girl who unsuccessfully tried to concieve for over 2 years, they went through in vitro treatments three times without success, and couldn't affort it any longer. A year later, they got pregnant naturally, no charting or OPK or anything. Her son is four.

And it's really true about AF when you're hoping not to! There's a mail list on a ttc site I visit called "ONNA" - Oh No, Not Again. :)

I never tried in vitro or anything, but month after month of periods took a toll on me.  All that hoping, wanting, waiting, and then being disappointed over and over was too much for me.  My husband more or less said he wanted to stop trying because I was getting too upset about it.  By then, I was ready to stop myself.   

ONNA is right!  I always wanted two kids.  I just didn't think it would happen quiet like this.  I thought we'd start trying again in the summer so my son would be 3 or older when his sibling was born.  I never dreamed I'd be having another one during the summer!   

We have been ttc for 3.5 years and infertility is such a hard thing to deal with. We are currently at the point where we are saving for the RE. The fact that most insurance plans consider infertility treatment or ART as elective, unapproved medical treatments really burns my behind. Also, having to go to a special doctor in order to do what comes naturally to so many women makes me feel like a failure. Well, enough about my woes... We have a plan now and god willing I will be pregnant by the early fall 08!

 

For those of you TTC I do suggest the book TCOF as suggested in an above post, I also suggest charting your bbt & cm and most of all do not get frustrated if you do not get that BFP right away. Get your husbands/SO's involved in your charting so it becomes a learning experience for both of you. Also, it is proven that when husbands/SO's get involved DTD (doing the deed) becomes less of a chore and less stressful for both you and your Husband/SO. You ladies may not know what I mean by DTD being a chore and stressful for you and your Husband/SO but they stress about not being successful too. Make sure that you ask your Husband/SO how they feel and give them reassurance from time to time.

If any of you need a shoulder or advise just send me a message.

I am not sure if this is permitted, but I am a member of an infertility forum and get great support there. I think it is a great idea and is very helpful to have a community of people that are going along the same journey as you are.

lorriec, thanks for sharing your journey so far. I took training to teach others NFP (natural family planning) - the charting and CM and all. I've seen many people who want to learn to do it because they aren't "successful" at something they thought should just happen. Your words are so true. I live in Canada, and I know what a struggle it is for people in the US to save for procedures like this. I really feel for you.

And I totally agree about including the SO as much as possible.

Thanks for the vote of confidence and the advice. I, like so many people, always sort of felt that once I decided that I wanted to concieve, I'd be pg within a month! Even talking to the people I have for whom that didn't happen, I still secretly thought it in my heart. Not to compare our experiences, but thanks for offering to be open to pm's from people who want to discuss privately.

Just found out this afternoon that the husband is going to be able to get here this month! I think I mentioned when I first posted in here that we were currently apart due to a cross country move and the fact that I moved first? I am booking his flight tonight... just so happens he'll get here right before I ovulate, haha! :D

Mr. disease-of-ease can look forward to a hot reunion!

Happy baby dancing!

 

Any updates from any prior posters?  Unfortunately, we have not had any luck. I'm currently ovulating now, so am crossing my fingers. I think we're moving on to the 3rd-4th time/month trying.  I do believe that the stress and anxiety of conceiving is getting to me, so I'm trying my hardest not to worry too much about it and just let things happen naturally.  I appreciate this thread and hearing about others' stories.  It gives me hope. 

First baby I had been off yasmin for two months and I got pregnant by surprise.  How lucky and blessed I was. 

This time, not so lucky.  It's been several months now and we've discovered that I have a luteal phase defect, so, without treatment I will not conceive or carry a baby :(

I have just ordered prometrium and will start taking it to lengthen my luteal phase this month.  Hoping this will do the trick!

Does anyone believe that stress messes with your hormones enough to cause infertility or an LPD?

We are still trying...now on month 8. 

I am currently ovulating so keeping my fingers crossed. 

Random question: Any relation of hereditary and ability to conceive?  My sister just got pregnant again after only trying for about 2 months...and it was the same with her first child.  Definitely is hard for me to hear about how she is doing..but still very happy for her! 

brianneo- definitely try to not stress.  (although the hardest thing in the world to do!).  Good luck to you and keep us posted!

good question Wilkiea!

My mom apparently had no problems conceiving me and my brother (I was born 2 months after she was married...my brother born 1.5 years later.  Dad had a vesectomy -- so they conciously decided not to have any more children). My brother has two children and a third on the way!  However, my grandmother only had one child, my mom...she  had difficulty conoceiving and carrying a child full term.  I was also wondering whether I inherited her difficulties in conceiving.......  Wilkiea - I cried when I found out my brother is on number 3 (only my husband knew and he was awesome in comforting me).  =(  I'm happy for him, but at the same time, cant help but feel something is wrong with me...we'll go to the doctors after several more months of  not conceiving to find out.  Doesnt' it seem as if tons of people get pregnant so easily? (I have several friends who got pregnant even while on birth control!)

I do believe that stress affects your ability to conceive, especially after reading this thread and seeing how when people actually stopped trying to conceive, they got pregnant.  This is reinforced by the fact that many people I know get pregnant when they're not trying. 

Any one charting and analyzing mucus?  I notice that I rarely have the "fertile" mucus, and generally have dry days with very little tacky mucus...I think that has something to do with my difficulty conceiving. 

HI gals,

I thought I'd chime back in on this...

I definitely believe stress has something to do with our ovulation and ability to conceive. After 6/7 months of charting and peeing on a stick (Fertility monitor), this month I have just tried not to think about it, and we BD when we want, not when we get a peak signal.  We'll see what happens. 

On another note, from all the charting, I realized that I too, have a short luteal phase. I've been taking vitamins to help lengthen it, but I'm not sure how well they have been working. On Monday, I'm going to get some blood work done for once and for all to determine what's going on.

CMAMA-- how did you find how you had LTD?  Did you doctor diagnose you and what did they prescribe?

Thanks!!

 

thanks brianneo for your comments....and glad to know its not just me about getting upset about a sibling! 

I definitely chart my CF but not my temperature.  I run at about a 35 day cycle instead of the "normal" 28 but even after 8 months, it still can vary by a fews days or more.  I decided not to stress or worry my obgyn until it has been a year of TTC.

Hopefully this past cycle we were successful!  I can actually feel when i ovulate (but only on the right side) so we timed it perfectly this month.  i guess i will know in about a week. 

no stress...no stress....:)

 

Apparently I'm very fertile because my first 2 were concieved the 1st month off the pill and I'm pregnant with my 3rd and I was off theh pill for 2 months. Thanks goodness there is the pill or I would have repopulated the earth by now.

hey there! well my husband and i have been trying for about 1 yr 1/2!! yep i went to the doctor 3 months ago and they put me on fertility drugs (clomid) and its my first round that im in, next week i get to take a preg test too see if im pregnant! they(pregnant women) have said they never got preg on the first round so i dont wanna keep my hopes up =] but if i fall pregnant ill let u know!!! let me know if u do too!!!

Keeping my fingers crossed appl3buti3!!

Hmindel, you should definitely consider yourself lucky.  I know there are many women who would love to be in your shoes.  Congratulations on number 3!

 

ok, we did it!!!!  =)  It took us 3-4 months of trying.  =)  Just took a pregnancy test on Saturday and it came out positive. I was about 1 week late for my period. I really thought I wasn't pregnant though, b/c my husband had traveled during ovulation, but I guess somehow before or after, we managed to conceive.  I wasn't even really concerned with getting pregnant b/c of his trip.  Interestingly, I was having cramps all last week (the week after  my period was due), so I kept thinking I was going to have my period. I even wore pantyliners and bought tampons, thinking that was the case.  1 week late, I decided to take a pregnancy test and it was positive.  Took another one, yesterday ( the next day), just to be absolutely sure, and yup...still pregnant.  Going to the doctors this wedensday and am crossing my fingers that this is going to be a safe and healthy pregnancy.  =) I'm so happy!!!  Just goes to show, that when you kinda stop trying to conceive or when u least expect it, it happens.

brianneo - congratulations!!!!  how very exciting for you.  Good Luck at the doctor's!!!!!!  keep us posted!!