Seriously people, whats with all this 'guys dig curves' garbage? Yea right! If guys dig curves, than why is the stick-thin image promoted? And why do guys only date mainly skinny girls whose legs don't even touch when they walk?
Anyone else in high school notice this? Do you think it's just our age?
It depends on where you live. I used to live in a predominantly white bread mayonnaise community if you know what I mean. I was always made fun of and ridiculed for my "curves." When I got older I moved to NYC, and guys there LOVED, seriously, LOVED my curves. Unfortunately I moved away from NYC back in to New England where my curves aren't as appreciated as much. But I found the right guy who loves them all the same. : )
I have graduated a few years ago ( I am 24 now) and I honestly say it's the guys age. Guys my age do dig curves...I mean the ones I know. Now there is a difference of just looking fat...but I think if you have a definetion of your bust-waist-hip ratio...then guys like it.
But then again it just depends on the guys taste...they all vary. As do us girls. Some like that tatooed, peireced guys, others the rocker type, jocks, etc. Just remember all guys do not like stick figure girls.
Of course guys dig curves. Curves as in, 36-26-36 curves. Since when did 'overweight' become known as the more politically-correct 'curves' I do not know, but I don't know any guy who digs overweight girls because of her size. Not to say that guys don't like overweight girls, just that they may like them for their personalities first.
well speaking about my guy..sure he likes them fit, but not like stick figure..
we have a habit of pointing out guys/girls we think are hot..and I get 'she's way too skinny' a lot..
if she's not horribly overweight, and has some sort of waist to hip ratio, he's in..
If she's real skinny but still has a waist to hip ratio..he's in..
I gotta say I hear 'look at those curves' quite a lot (about me and other girls too, so it's not that he's just complimenting me and being nice)
Original Post by mochi-chan:
Not to say that guys don't like overweight girls, just that they may like them for their personalities first.
i had 2 guys like me when i was obese &they didnt know my personality...
i think lots of things can determine whether somone is attracted to you. maybe they liked me cause i smiled alot, &had a pretty face... &big boobs &butt!
all guys are different. honestly.
I'm basically built like a boy - no hips or chest. But guys at my school seem to like to touch me a lot, which can be very frustrating and extremely creepy.
I've always had 'curves', I had a bit extra weight, but definataly not enough to say I was fat or obese, but guys never ever liked me.
36.5, 25, 38. (raging pear)
Never had trouble finding a guy, although granted I don't go through them like broccoli florets. I've been dating my current prospective for 9 months, he still tells me I'm gorgeous, even when I don't prompt him. He's almost got me thinking it's the truth XD.
Original Post by peacelovehominy:
Original Post by mochi-chan:
Not to say that guys don't like overweight girls, just that they may like them for their personalities first.
i had 2 guys like me when i was obese &they didnt know my personality...
i think lots of things can determine whether somone is attracted to you. maybe they liked me cause i smiled alot, &had a pretty face... &big boobs &butt!
all guys are different. honestly.
Lucky you. But usually overweight people aren't as lucky.
That aside, when we talk about guys who like overweight girls, do we mean the hot, popular type or the fat, nerdy type? Because it's true, I know guys who like overweight girls, who have man boobs themselves. But if we're talking about the hottest guy in the school, chances are he's going out with the hottest girl in school and not the fattest girl in school.
Of course there are always, always exceptions, but those are few and far between.
"ohhh baby, look at the bones on her!"
or
"daaayum check out that set of ribs!"
Guys DO like curves. Apart from some, who like ALL girls, and skinny models go in that category!
It's mostly stupid/easily influenced guys who only go for stick-thin girls...it's what they get told they should like.
You'll mostly find as you get older that guys like a girl with a bit of an arse and (obviously) some boobies! And my bf likes me being cuddly, but I don't think many boys are as soft and snuggly as he is.
Original Post by mochi-chan:
Original Post by peacelovehominy:
Original Post by mochi-chan:
Not to say that guys don't like overweight girls, just that they may like them for their personalities first.
i had 2 guys like me when i was obese &they didnt know my personality...
i think lots of things can determine whether somone is attracted to you. maybe they liked me cause i smiled alot, &had a pretty face... &big boobs &butt!
all guys are different. honestly.
Lucky you. But usually overweight people aren't as lucky.
That aside, when we talk about guys who like overweight girls, do we mean the hot, popular type or the fat, nerdy type? Because it's true, I know guys who like overweight girls, who have man boobs themselves. But if we're talking about the hottest guy in the school, chances are he's going out with the hottest girl in school and not the fattest girl in school.
Of course there are always, always exceptions, but those are few and far between.
actually, they were both hot &absolutely no where near overweight-or having any sort of "moobs."
The reason the stick thin image is promoted is just like why the plumper image is promoted during depressions - in order to get that way you need to try really hard or be rich (you can afford going to the gym) and not everyone looks like it. As there is plenty of food at a low cost (compartivly) than before, being larger isnt difficult.
But honestly, self confidence does show. I know it sounds daft, but the guys who wont talk to a girl cos she's not a size0 are not worth it.
That was WAY funny jules!! I'll have to agree with you on that one...
I've never seen a guy drool over ribs either.... unless there was BBQ sauce on them ;)
The people who referred to waist-hip ratio are correct. Look at the classics: marilyn, sofia, elizabeth...they were bursting at the seams with volumptuous pulcheritude. But they had small waists in comparison to the t and a.
Age does have something to do with it. In high school people are still trying to find where they fit in, so their choices will tend to reflect what they think is acceptable to their peer group. To mix metaphors, high school is kind of a forced bubble you're in with many many people able to examine you daily under their microscope. Some you do like, many you don't, all up close. After high school you start to choose where you go and what you do, and you are more free to really be who you are. This involves choosing who you date without such a need for approval.
Er, kind of. For men anyway. Truth be told, as women get older their list of mandatory traits in a partner and deal breakers gets longer and longer. Men loosen up however. Yay!
The kind of guys who were attracted to me at my heaviest tended to be bean pole skinny, and they were definately a niche - meaning the ones I've kept in touch with pretty much only date heavy girls. Maybe it's the added warmth and comfort. Also I tended to go over well in the hispanic community. Which is great for me since I likewise appreciate them.
because the media isn't trying to impress the guys, it's trying to sell to the girls.
they've successfully created the illusion that guys like it (which some do, but most claim they don't), and the girls believe it.
moreover,
what i see is everybody running around making a fuss about how the media brainwashes everybody; in reality there are more people complaining about the media than there are people who agree with it.
my theory, anyway :|
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