What about making new friends? If my friends made me drink and eat crap ("yelling at me"), I'd dump them for good. If they want to ruin their health and waste their time like that, let them do it alone.

learn to say no...let them know you're full, eat before going out... always have a drink in hand (water, tea, orange juice... things that look like booze.. have a glass or two of something mixed... then just keep thinning it out till you're drinking nothing but the good stuff). 

or...

ditch them as disc said.

or...

let them know what your doing, have fun with them... and if they're worth keeping around.. they'll get it...

it really all comes down to determining what you want and going out and getting it...

btw.. if you know you're going to snack when you drink... bring healthy snacks with you.  why not munch on cauliflower or carrots or something?  good old bar peanuts aren't bad either... just watch your amounts.  have a lighter day before going out as well.. booze adds up calories fast. 

you have lots of options is what I'm getting at... so, just find the one that works. 

i agree with the last response....in fact, one of my favorite principles to follow in life is from 1 cor. 15:33...."bad associations spoil useful habits" unless you have a very strong leader personality, if you want your life to change your friends should as well...you are smart and mature for realizing your need to back off from them. your commitment to your health is commendable!

There comes a time when it gets OLD. I remember when it happened to me. Don't get me wrong I still like to have a few glasses of wine here or there, but in moderation. You look pretty young and I know it is hard when all your friends are in party mode. Do your friends party on the weekends or all week? If it is the weekend try going to the gym or volunteer your time or TURN YOUR PHONE OFF - trust me they will get the hint. If you really want to keep your friendships then you have to put yourself first and say NO they should understand and if they don't they really don't care about your well being and drop them.

Good luck!!! Oh and... Dog chow (lol)?????

Try to keep theses parties once in a month.........It wont hurt you that bad........I understand at times it is difficult to say no to friends or leave them for this one bad thing.

But yes if your friends are partying too frequently and forcing you with them ....then its time to pick friends who understand you or make new friends.

Dog chow is a snack made with chex thrown in a bag with melted chocolate shaken and then you add powdered sugar.

Soooooo good but SOOOOOO bad.

 Frankly, I find all the "dump your friends" suggestions very disturbing.

I have SOMETHING in common with all my friends - that's why they are my friends. However, I don't have EVERYTHING in common with any of them. We are all individuals and have our differences. Some of my friends are into healthy eating, some are not. Some of my friends drink, some don't. Some are atheists, some are believers. Some like opera, some like indie bands.

What I am trying to say is - I am guessing you have something in common with your friends (that's why they are friends, right?),and disagreeing with them in one aspect of your life is not in itself a good enough reason to dump them. Why not invite them round to your place, and you can cook a healthy meal for all of them? Or why not suggest to go out to a restaurant that offers healthier food? Or, next time you eat at the same restaurant, just order an extra dish, so you have enough for yourself even after sharing.

I don't think dumping your freind is the answer.

None of my freinds understand why i'm dieting as far as they are concerned my the skinny one anyway. They arn't gonig to change years and years worth of habit and things we have done together because im suddenly on a diet??  

Have you sat down and explained what your trying to do?? have you told them how important it is for them to NOT drag you in on thier bad habit and convince you to drink when you know you shouldn't be, because i know my friends wouldn't "force" me into drinking and eating badly if id sat down and had a heart to heart asking them not too, perhaps they don't realise how seriosuly you are taking this dieting perhaps they don't realise what damange they are causing??

The real question is how often do you go out with them?? i go out with mine once a week and i call that my cheat day where i do allow myself limited indulgances??

would it be so bad for you to ave a cheat day with your friends once in a while ??? is there a way you could have a good time with your friends, allow yourself to have fun and yet keep it in moderation, after all control is the kep here they only person who controls what go's into your mouth is you??

You could tell them you're trying to eat healthy?

If not you could tell a little white lie and say you have recently discovered a certain allergy? Maybe lactose if you dont like cheese or glutten if you dont like pasta and pizza.

Its sneaky but you shouldnt feel pressured into eating unhealthily!

Hope this help

xXx

Dump your friends????? OMG that is horrible advice.  Friends are so important.  The key is moderation.  If you keep these events to a rare occasion it's fine.  I eat horrible restaurant food once a week and i think i'm doing ok.

~H~

I don't drink. I have tried it before but I just don't like how it tastes so I don't bother. Someone once told me it was an acquired taste which seemed funny to me. Why should i acquire a taste for something that isn't good for me? Just so i can do what they were doing? nah. you don't have to dump your friends. You just need to decide ahead of time what you are going to do and stick with it. You'll probably take a little flak from them at first because, after all, when people are doing something that isn't the greatest for them, they always like company. Just stick to your guns, your real friends won't mind and I bet some of them will admire you for sticking to your convictions. I wouldn't be surprised if another friend eventually admitted they don't like to drink as much but were afraid to speak out. Be proud of who you are, and of your differences. Your self esteem and pride in doing what you feel is right will stick with you long after the buzz from the alcohol wears off.

Don't dump your friends!  I can't believe people are telling you to do that!  OK.  This happens to me with my friends to.  When I go out with them, they know that I am eating healthy, and most of the time, that is fine (for me not them) but once in a while someone orders the deluxe chocolate supreme thingy and we all share.  On nights like this I just think... IT IS ONE NIGHT!  Sometimes we need a night to just be a girl with our girls and do that!  Maybe you needed last night to feel normal.  Now call it a maintenance day or a sanity day, and get back on the horse.  I honestly think days like that are good for your metabolism anyway.  Just don't make it a habit! 

What struck me most about your post, is that you seem to have decided to be a victim, or bystander, to your life and your responsibilities - your friends do what your friends do! I bet they've done that always, and prior to your dieting, I'm sure you thought it was fine and fun sharing the way they do. Now you've decided on a lifestyle change, and changes are often something that doesn't sit well with others, who are used to being with you in a certain way - you all have to learn to be together in your new roles, and that takes some time, and conviction - from your side - if you really want to be the designated driver of your life :-)

Good luck

What you need to do is stand your ground when it comes to certain things. Just make it clear to them that you are on a diet and wish it to be successful. Indulge but not too much and have a recovery plan.

One of the main reasons I put on so much weight is because my friends and I loved going out to eat. And we could eat a lot between us. It was fun at the time but the health implications for many of us is that we became obese. So my friends contributed to my weight gain. I still see my friends but try to keep a handle on what I'm eating without restricting myself.

Some of my friends have been impressed by my weight loss and started dieting themselves. Others think its hopeless and they can't do it. So they continue as they are.

Good luck with weight-loss!