I know exactly how you feel. when i first lost my weight i was repeatedly told i was too skinny, i should eat more and that i should put on a few pounds and this was my family and best friend. what made it worse what that i was happy and wasnt even anywhere near the lower end of my recommneded weight bracket. My doctor told my i was at a healthy weight, it didn't stop everyone trying to feed me massive portions and high calorie foods though and tutting when i couldnt finish them or turned them away.

at the end of the day if your happy then maintain your weight. the people around you get used ot seeing you a certain way so when you change they dont like it. i am now convinced that my family were so used to seeing me fat that they thought it was normal for me and in some part i think they were jealous of my achievement. chin up your not meant to please everyone!

Being mean?  Or just because you think she had noticed you lost weight? 

I had people call me that a lot when I had lost quite a bit of weight.  Now of course I was actually still a little overweight, but the point was, I had lost a lot, and by people calling me skinny (even though I wasn't), it was their way of acknowledging that I had lost weight, even it wasn't the best way!

With such an increasing percentage of the English speaking world becoming fat and obese, people have it on their mind no matter what their own weight, so people will often comment, in some way, on someone getting thinner, but getting bigger is such a touchy subject, only your close family and friends, or the most nasty of people will comment about that!

As an aside, regardless of whether you have lost or gained weight, unless you are incredibly stunning, or horrendously ugly, weight is the most obvious visual about any person, and you will be categorised in a weight bracket whether you like it or not.

Try not to let it get to you.  Try to judge the way in which someone makes a comment rather than the actual words used.  (The plain written word is so abstract!  So much better to hear the way things are said, the look on a person's face, etc)

I think it's just a matter of someone's perspective. I'm very overweight so someone at 5'1" and 110 is skinny to me. I would never say it in a mean you need to eat more way. It would be a sincere compliment because I would admire you being healthy.

Same here - a girl recently told me how skinny I looked (which sounded kind of bad). I'm at a very healthy weight, not losing, just building muscle. I don't go around telling people "you look so overweight", so I don't understand what the big deal is about being lean.

Some people at work call me "skinny Phil" because I've lost so much since they last saw me (different building).  It's bothersome because this is the real me, not some guy who changed only in their eyes.  But they mean it as a compliment, a "hurray for you!" kind of thing.  It's been 18 months since I lost so much weight; I wish they'd get over it already.

That said, I think of it as if they're saying "nice shirt!"  I try not to see it as if what they really mean is, "Finally! you're wearing a nice shirt!"

What if this girl said, "hey, beautiful" or "gosh you're so pretty today!" ?

In the right context, being called skinny by people is meant in a nice complimentary way. But I know where you're coming from.

I think it's a pretty harsh word myself, and much prefer the use of the word slim. If someone turned round and said to a slim person, 'You're too skinny' no-one would bat an eyelid. But if someone said to a bigger person, 'You're too fat', you'd think the world has fallen down.

Whenever I hear people say the world 'skinny' it always seems to be a thinly veiled insult.

It's never happened to me, but my mum gets it a lot, and it upsets her. Shes happy with her weight and how she looks, but other people find it hard to accept. Even though she has been the same size pretty much all her life.

Are they possibly trying to make you feel good thinking you wanted to be called that???I would take that as a complimnent aactually but maybe i just don't quite understand, maybe they said it in a mean tone or something but i think they were actually being nice, trying to compliment you