I feel your pain. As a former heavyweight, my relatives were constantly telling me to lose weight.  Then when I did, I was 'anorexic", "eating like a bird", and all that other crap. Hypocrites.

You hang in there, Beatrice. I wish the people in your life were more supportive, but I probably speak for the rest of the people on here when I say that I think what you're doing is AWESOME!!! Good for you for making healthy choices, even when those around you are not. I think that change threatens many people...you may find that over time, either they'll also be inspired by your example, or you'll find more people who are trying to live the same way you are. In the meantime, though, go you!!!

It's so difficult to have others around you doing the same ole thing that they always were doing while you are trying to make a major lifestyle change. I totally understand what you mean! The temptations from my roommate who makes so much fatty food are outrageous.

A few things that I have found that have helped with certain people is to really explain to them what your plan is and not just "I want to lose so many pounds." In the end, it's not all about losing the weight, but more so about being healthy. Explain to them that you aren't just stopping eating,  you are just making healthier choices. Share with them some of the choices that you are making and tell them outright that you would like their support. Confront them right there in the moment and them that it irritates you that they make the comments that they do. If they understand more of what you are doing and how you are doing, they may be more respectful of your eating.

The other thing that you may want to try with your sister is to ask if she wants to cook a meal with you instead of running out and getting fast food. Ask if she wants to look up fun, healthy recipes online with you and go to the grocery store to shop for the food and then cook it together. This may seem like a lot of work if she just wants some quick food, but it could be a lot of fun as well.

These are just some suggestions. I'm right there with you as far as the people around me being a huge temptation to eat what I don't want to be eating.

I am sorry you are dealing with this!  You are doing a great thing and they are feeling bad about what they are doing...it is more comfortable for them for you to join in!  You should be proud, stick to it!

One thing I used to say to people trying to lure me with cakes, fried food, chocolate, etc, ect was -

"Sorry I can't eat that, I'm allergic. It causes me to break out in fat" :-D

My size 0 coworker is constantly telling me...that's all you eat?  You don't need to lose more weight.  Yeah whatever..........

I agree with what everyone has said.  You should be proud of what you are doing to make yourself healthier, and try to turn it around- instead of letting it get to you, consider it motivation to keep going! (which it sounds like you are!)  When it becomes visibly obvious that the pounds are dropping off, they will look at you in awe and leave you alone! They are probably pretty jealous that you are actually sticking to your guns and being disciplined...something that is hard for alot of people to do!  Soon you'll be their friend/sister/etc that they tell their friends about who lost so much weight by being healthy and disciplined!

I feel your pain! I've only been working at this for a couple weeks, bringing my lunch to work/school every day, and every day people are asking me what I'm eating and why. I happen to like healthy food, like tabouli, but I had such an unhealthy lifestyle and I was so lazy that I would never make myself good stuff to eat.

Last week I made a batch, and it was really good! A co-worker came up to me, asked me what I was eating, then asked me "Why would you eat that?", then tried to convince me to go get a sonoran hotdog with him!

I know I should be proud of what I'm trying to accomplish, and I am, but people look at me funny when I tell them that I'm just trying to eat healthier. Like it's not obvious that I'm overweight? That making these choices is me working at being a healthier person?

Stick with it! We're all here to help each other!

My situation is the opposite. It feels like people are trying to get me to eat even less. My mom was (and kind of still is) anorexic so she hates when I say things like "I've only eaten 800 cals today.. I get to eat 400 more still!". She just looks at me in a disappointed way.. it's kinda crappy. She always tells me stories of how she was young and wouldn't eat for days on end.  But.. now she's overweight and still can't eat more or she'll get even fatter. Karma :(

I'll stick to my 1200 cals, thanks!

Original Post by clairesty:

One thing I used to say to people trying to lure me with cakes, fried food, chocolate, etc, ect was -

"Sorry I can't eat that, I'm allergic. It causes me to break out in fat" :-D

OMG - I LOVE that!  Will have to use it!

I know it's difficult when you are doing something good and people you care about don't have understanding enough to offer a few words of encouragement.  But do not let their thoughtless comments control your emotions.  You have a choice on how you respond to those comments.  Don't let them effect you negatively.  Maybe use those types of comments as motivators.  What you're doing is not easy but it is worth every struggle you are going through.  When you continue accomplishing each one of your goals getting closer and closer to the person you want to be maybe then your family will see how wrong they were.  And who knows, maybe seeing you excel will open a door of opportunity for you to help your family with their health.

Like my wife always says "jealousy is an ugly thing, but you better get used to it because its all around us " --LOL :-)-----do what u do and let them do as they wish- but know full well that you are the smarter one and will be better off for it---Imagine the lunacy of eating deep fried chicken and criticizing someone else who eats salad-unreal