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| Husband = Diet Sabotage |  born2bird |
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| #1 | x17star17x |
Apr 24 2007 20:39 |
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i feel ya! my boyfriend does the same thing. ALWAYS wants to eat out... and it just frusterates me. And yep it is right. Tell him if he WANTS red robin, and you are opposed, that he can order it to go and he can pick it up. LoL. I make my man do that sometimes. It's just gotten to the point where I'm tired of staring at a menu that I cannot eat anything on, I'm tired of trying to find out what I can eat, I'm tired of ordering everything super special, most of all I'm tired of watching HIM stuff his face is greasy french fries and whatever else he wants. It's just so not motivating. if you want to go to red robin, just get a really plain salad, get the dressing on the side. i know they have em, and waste away your calories on something not so great. UGH! |
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| #2 | sydthekid |
Apr 24 2007 20:40 |
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Honestly, when I go to Red Robin, I get what I want, I eat the fries. Heck, I sometimes even have a Rookie Magic (oreo milkshake), refil included. But then, I haven't been trying to 'diet', I've just been making better choices, eating healthier (and less) all around. So, I don't feel bad when I go out to eat. It's not an every day occurance (or even every week), so I'd like to enjoy it. Besides...my husband is REALLY tired of hearing me talk about how bad stuff is for you :-) And his vice is the Royal Red Robin Burger (bacon, egg, burger, cheese, etc...) |
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| #3 | tlstot |
Apr 24 2007 20:43 |
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UMMMM NO! You are far from alone. My fiance should be dieting but instead he buys all of this shit like motzorella sticks, pizza rolls, and hungry man tv dinners. Not to mention when we go out to eat he too will order burgers with fries.
My problem is i LOVE ketchup. So what else do u eat besides fries at a restraunt when eating with your significant other. AHHHH i wish he would just order a salad or i hated that stuff. But i try not to eat more than 3 or 4 bites. Cuz that stuff just makes me feel crappy anyway. |
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| #4 | abeckert |
Apr 24 2007 20:53 |
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My fiance is the type of person who can eat anything he wants and not gain a pound.
He got a new job as a cook at a BBQ joint and it is terrible. He comes home smelling like BBQ and I know that all I have to do is call and I will have ribs and mac and cheese waiting for me when I get home from work. And I live in a city where everything is fried and the healthy food is the coleslaw that comes with the fried food. It is just terrible. |
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| #5 | sdsubrandi |
Apr 24 2007 20:54 |
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I understand where you are comming from...my boyfriend has absolutly horrible eating habits and no interest in changing them. Additionally, he is super skinny and always trying to eat lots of calories to gain weight. One of his favorites things to do is to order a pizza and chicken wings and have "diner" ready when I get home.
Alot of my weight gain came from eating out with him and giving into his eating habits. What I had to do is put my foot down, so now when he says he wants pizza (or mcd's, or something else bad) I say "Well I am not going lose weight eating pizza and this is important to me so we are going to have to find a different option...or you can go to pizza by yourself" The first time I said this he looked at me like I was nuts and went and got the pizza while I cooked a healthy diner for me. The next day he took the leftovers to work so they wouldnt tempt me. Now if he wants fast food he either 1) eats it before I get home ( I get home a lot later than he does) or 2) goes by himself while I am cooking my diner. Its hard and it is deffinatly something that we are BOTH working on. I would talk to your husband, this is something important to you and you need his support. I told my boyfriend, " I support your motorcycle riding (his favorite thing to do!) and I expect you to support my diet!" I hope this helps, sorry for the long response...this is something I can relate to alot! |
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| #6 | plaidpooka |
Apr 24 2007 21:04 |
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I'm a little curious about something. You said that you're dinner would be 450 cals, and that would put you over by 200 cals for the day. Is it just a weird day, or do you normally only have 250 calories for dinner?
You're doing the right thing ordering sensibly. Just stay away from the fries and you'll be fine! He got to chose where to dine this time, next time you chose, and you can go to a place with more options for you. Sdsubrandi, I eat pizza with my fella all the time. I just make mine an extra thin crust, veggie, with no cheese. Tasty and only has a fraction of the calories of traditional pizza. |
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| #7 | jamiesgibson |
Apr 24 2007 21:13 |
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I think a lot of us are in the same boat....my boyfriend now has the nickname "Sugar Pusher" he loves sugar in any form...as do I. But I don't keep it in my house and I don't eat out unless it is with him...but when we do he always has to order dessert...HUGE MOUNDS OF IT>>
We bicker about it...but I have gotten to a point where I just allow myself to have a few bites...and try to be happy with that...or I just get really mad inside and become my stubborn self and to prove to him I don't need to eat it...I just sit there and stare at him while he eats it...then when he complains about gaining a few pounds I tell him...hey have another Muffin/cinnamon roll/cookie/ice cream/cake...he gets the point.... |
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| #8 | born2bird |
Apr 24 2007 22:02 |
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Wow!! It looks like there are a lot of us out there who live with someone who has not jumped on the healthy bandwagon. I am very good about biting my tongue and never begrudge him his food choices, as lousy as they may be. It is just very difficult to be around something like steak fries (for me at least) and not want to eat them. Did I mention that steak fries was all I was able to stomach during the first 4 months of my first pregnancy? Everything else made me throw up. I would eat a 5lb bag in a week. Hence the 54 pound weight gain with baby boy number 1. How embarassing!! I love the damn things.
Plaidpooka: I am eating 1200-1300 cals/day ( I wanted today to be 1200 day) and I had almost reached 1000 by the time I had finished lunch. |
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| #9 | bgerding2 |
Apr 24 2007 22:08 |
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I know exactly where you're coming from. It seems my hubby is trying to get me off my diet on purpose sometimes! HE can eat like a horse and not gain an ounce. I can look at french fries and gain 2 pounds! He loves my home cooked meals and insists on meat and potaotes every night. I just eat home made soups when the calorie count for dinner is too high. I feel cheated sometimes, but I can't expect him to diet because I need to loose weight. If I go out to eat, which rarley happens, I have what I want. Afterall, I don';t get to do it very often. I try and keep it within my calorie count for the day though.
BG |
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| #10 | ckwski |
Apr 24 2007 22:10 |
| Well like many other posts you are not alone. I came home the other night and my husband had bought and entire coconut cream pie!!! I couldn't believe it!!! I was so mad at him he just doesn't get it. Since I've been doing CC I haven't totally deprived myself I still eat sweets and in moderation but don't bring home a whold freaking pie!!! | ||
| #11 | clairelaine |
Apr 24 2007 22:22 |
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What you do is, start calling him "Chubby Hubby". Make rude remarks about his waistline and comment on everything he eats that's bad. Just kidding! But wouldn't you like to?
This discussion makes me glad I live alone. |
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| #12 | ahsa5392 |
Apr 24 2007 22:25 |
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This is definitely a problem for many of us... I dont have children but I think if you have them you have to have some sort of junk and yummy(!) food in the house all time. You can maybe convince your husband to stay away from junk but cant do that to your kids.
I think we need to learn how to resist temptation and this is as important as motivating yourself to work out or eat fewer calories. |
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| #13 | veniro |
Apr 24 2007 22:45 |
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Husbands always mean well... I told my husband to keep my lunch lite today...when I got home for lunch here is the plate of food waiting for me: We were having leftover whole grain pasta and sugar free pasta sauce with veggies....He had ADDED beef and piled tons of cheese on top! He did good with the salad..it was fine, he didnt' toss in any cupcakes. then he put 2 1/2 big greasy pieces of buttery garlic bread on my plate. ..he just said 'What?? it's healthy..." gotta love him. |
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| #14 | lysistrata |
Apr 24 2007 22:48 |
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Geez, who ever knew marriage takes work? ;-)
I've got to stand up for the men on this one. How long do they have to tolerate our 250 calorie dinners before they get to have something they want? It's not his fault the french fries taste good! Be thankful he's supported you this far and don't begrudge him one meal that's based on his standards rather than yours. I'll bet a million dollars that the more you support his preferences, the more he'll support yours. ;-) |
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| #15 | lynjustlose56 |
Apr 24 2007 23:27 |
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I feel your pain girl.. My husband wants to get ihop at 2 in the morning or the waffle house... And they have a few things i love.. I could not tell my husband no at 2 in the morning.......After he treated me to a great foot rub for my early morning walk last week.. So i went to ihop, and i feel i had his meal and my meal too... So you are not the only one.. When i say i am fat.. He says to me.. Baby you are not FAT.. You are just thick and Oh so Cute..
YEAH RIGHT!..... I asked him just the other day.. Do you kiss your mother with them lying lips, and he always come at me with a no.. I don't kiss my mother.. I hug her with my loving arms.. I kiss you with my lying lips..... MEN.... Start a diet and they start to wonder 1st of all who are you getting all sexy for at work...MEN! I feel you lets get a fast food meal anytime pain.. Men forget we women can't do what they do. |
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| #16 | x17star17x |
Apr 24 2007 23:28 |
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born2bird - I am eating 1200-1300 cals/day ( I wanted today to be 1200 day) and I
had almost reached 1000 by the time I had finished lunch. born2bird Maybe you should talk to your husband and let him know that today is a bad day for Red Robin, and maybe tomorrow. Then tomorrow you can plan out your calories a bit better, and leave room for some tasty red robin treats. I'm sure he'd understand, at least a little bit. :o) Just a suggestion. If my boyfriend wants to go anywhere, I make him tell me by 10am. If he doesn't, then hes not going! Because if he lets me know ahead of time, I can plan my day better. It's been workin out. Just gotta communicate. |
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| #17 | mistymoon |
Apr 24 2007 23:42 |
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uh, say no thanks.
Your husband can go out to Red Robin on his lunch hour and not tell you about it. I would say something along the lines of "Thanks honey, but you know.. I'm trying to loose weight and be healthier so that I can be around for a good long time with you. I would rather go out for a salad bar." Husbands get threatened when we make changes. For one, we're just changing and that's frightening,a nd for two - they don't want us to be attractive to other men. It's insecurity and it's their problem not ours. My husband did similar things and then one day I just stood up to him. He got all grumpy and throwing a baby fit in the store, and he said "I need to stop and get something to eat!" and I said "Well, OK, but just so you know, I won't be eating with you this time." He stopped then. Not saying yours will stop so easily, but you have to take care of yourself. |
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| #18 | klscorpio72 |
Apr 25 2007 19:53 |
| Hi, its weird, I havent been on CC for a while, then today I saw this post, and I am also in that same boat! I dont really have alot to lose, but I want to make solid healthy habits for myself and be a good role model for my children. My husband loves to cook, and he piles huge portions on my plate, and my daughters' plates. I try to tell him nicely that we only need a quarter of the amount he puts on there, then if were still hungry, we can go back for seconds. I feel bad if I think I hurt his feelings so its hard to tell him I want to fix my own plate. I love food and I will eat everything on my plate! Little by little he starts to understand, at least I think he does, then he'll come home with groceries for a bbq or a nice dinner...lots of pastry type foods, marinated meats, brocolli (score!) with cheese sauce!!! Guys just dont get that our metabolisms are way different than thiers and we have to work at this. The downside to thier bad eating habits, though, is not that they will necessarily gain but the other health problems that they may encounter later in life. | ||
| #19 |  mpershing |
Apr 25 2007 19:56 |
| Men are pigs, aren't they? Just kidding, I am one. I have the same problem with my wife. She wants to eat out all the time. She is an at home mom, and never plans anything for dinner. When I start to make something, she complains it will be too late to eat and wants to go somewhere. Not only is this bad nutritionally, it is hard on the wallet. I take the time to plan my food for the next day, packing my lunch & snacks to help me stay on track. When I want to get with her to plan the weeks meals so we won't be eating so late, her reply is "I don't know if I'll feel like that on that day." Most days its not worth the hassle of getting into a fight with her about not going out. She eats terribly and really needs to start exercising and eating better, but refuses to talk about it. I ask her to go walking with me or go with me to the gym - but she's always too tired. I said if she gets more active with me, she'll have more energy, but as of yet - no change. Keep her and our family in your prayers. Sorry about the rant - I don't have anybody to talk to, and I am about at the end of my rope. | ||
| #20 | kabelladonna |
Apr 25 2007 19:57 |
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I guess I've become sabotage proof. I can eat almost anywhere. I just go for the healthiest options possible and eat smaller amounts.
I'm fighting Fibromyalgia, in addition to weight and all of it's issues, so I'm on a mission. I'm been a yo-yo dieter all of my teenage years and now I'm staring 40 right in the eye. I just came to a point where enough is enough. It's coming off for the last time. I'm not dieting -- I've completely revamped my way of eating and outlook on food. I follow, as closely as I can the Dr. Gabe Mirkin/Dr. Andrew Weil/anti-inflammation diet way of eating because of my illness and because of the fact that I refuse to be someone with a diability. (low-fat protein, lots of fruits and veggies, nuts, whole grains, seeds, legumes, healthy natural fats from things like avocados, nuts, etc., very little to no flour or bread products.) Food is the enemy for me. I now look at food as a necessity for sustaining life. With a few minor exceptions, like a few bites of cake at a celebration, I have made myself like and crave good healthy foods. I really don't miss the fast-food/fried/processed foods I used to live on. It was quite a shock at first and took me a couple of weeks to completely change my mindset, but I'm doing it. I've dropped 40 lbs. since 1/27/07 (today is 4/25/07) and it's now a way of life because I'm only 1/3 of the way to goal. I want to be at normal weight or very near normal weight before my 40th birthday and I gave myself one year to do ti. I've spent many many years eating for the wrong reasons, eating way too much and way too much of the wrong things and I'm paying for it now. Hopefully, I can get to a point where I can get the pain and fatigue under control and start a regular exercise program. My doctor said Fibromyalgia won't cripple me or kill me but it will screw up my life. I'm not going to let that happen. It has changed my life, some good some bad, but I'm taking control. All of my rambling aside, with this mindset, I can't let anyone get in my way. Sit beside me and eat what you wish, but this is what I'm eating for my sake and my body's sake. I'd love the company but I'm not going to let you change my mind. Do or say what you wish, you will not change me or what food I put into my body. Hope this helps. Good luck with your journey. |
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