Heartbreak is the worst diet

Heartbreak is the worst diet		amonaco
		Jul 21 2008 14:33
I broke up with the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I know I know, he's just a guy and it's just a break up, get over it. But my whole world has been turned upside down and this has been painstaking for me. I was losing about .5-1lbs per week which I was thrilled with and proud of because I was doing it the right way. But this break up has robbed me of an appetite (i LOVE LOVE LOVE food, so that in itself is heartbreaking for me). I've lost 4lbs in the past 3 days, I can't eat ANYTHING..it literally makes me sick. I know my body is hating me for it, but the constant nausea won't go away. Any suggestions would be great. This has been a very difficult few days for me.

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#1	lac1023	Jul 21 2008 14:47
It sounds like you are grieving the relationship. Have you heard of flower essences? Something like Rescue Remedy by Bach could be helpful. Or a single flower essence like Sweet Chestnut. They can be found at a local health food store. They work by using vibrational energy from flowers to promote emotional healing. Also, ginger can be very soothing to the stomach and ease nausa. There are chewy ginger candies or just dried candied ginger may help with the nausea and make it possible for you to eat something more substantial.
#2	haley_2008	Jul 21 2008 15:02
((((HUGZ)))) I am so sorry you are feeling so horrible. I know exactly how you feel and what you need is TIME. Believe it or not, but please do believe me, it will get better with time. You will find someone else....the one you were meant to be with. And also, IF it was meant to be, it WILL happen. Things have a way of working out. Now, what you need to do is eat a little bit of high calorie (dense) foods. Spoon peanut butter? Keep drinking water so you don't get dehydrated. Even if you eat a mouthful of something every so often, it will help you feel better. You need energy right now so please TRY TRY TRY to eat something. Now is a great time to keep extra busy as well. Call a friend, clean the house, go for walk, go shopping, buy yourself something nice. YOU deserve that. Feel free to PM me if you need. ~H~
#3	coopeju1	Jul 21 2008 19:44
I am so sorry you are going through that. I have been dealing with the same issue recently. About a month ago my boyfriend, told me he still has feelings for his ex. It was really hard to break it off with him, but obviously I had to. It took me a few weeks to get back to where I felt like eating anything at all. I am still working on feeling ok, but I am doing much better- and you will be too. Hang in there.
#4	must_lose20	Jul 21 2008 19:49
Original Post by amonaco: I broke up with the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I know I know, he's just a guy and it's just a break up, get over it. But my whole world has been turned upside down and this has been painstaking for me. I was losing about .5-1lbs per week which I was thrilled with and proud of because I was doing it the right way. But this break up has robbed me of an appetite (i LOVE LOVE LOVE food, so that in itself is heartbreaking for me). I've lost 4lbs in the past 3 days, I can't eat ANYTHING..it literally makes me sick. I know my body is hating me for it, but the constant nausea won't go away. Any suggestions would be great. This has been a very difficult few days for me. awwww! I know you probably hate to hear this but I know exactly how you feel! My current boyfriend and I broke up for 2weeks a few years ago, I came home from work and found the closet empty. Long story short: I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, and I had to drag myself to work. In those 2 weeks I bet I lost 15lbs easy. Just the hurt and pain made me nauseous, but I forced myself to eat Saltine crackers, and drink tea just to have something in my tummy. Thankfully the break-up didn't last long otherwise I might have developed a serious problem. Don't let anyone make you feel like ''he's just a guy''. You obviously loved him, and it's okay to grieve your ''loss''. But please don't make yourself sick over it! When and if he sees you somewhere, you want to look good and healthy! So if you have to force yourself to eat bites here and there, it's better than starving completely. Just remember that time will heal your hurt. Everything happens for a reason.
#5	laura43	Jul 22 2008 20:03
sorry babe, sounds like you need a hug {=== ===}
#6	choco9	Jul 22 2008 21:02
I just wanted to post to tell you how sorry I am. My boyfriend of 2 years and I broke up recently and I thought we were probably going to get engaged soon. Then, poof! It falls apart. I thought I would just die. (Oh, and I was laid-off from my job the same day... I'm serious) But after only a few weeks I started to realize that (hokey as it sounds) there was a reason this happened. That reason is that he wasn't the person I am supposed to be with. I don't know what will happen now, and I may even end up alone, BUT I will take that over being with the wrong person any time. I don't know your situation, but I would bet that soon it will come to light that this is all for the best. Focus on yourself, your health, and happiness first and foremost, forgetting about the guy.
#7	alibombali	Jul 22 2008 22:23
I know exactly how you feel. I lost 16 lbs and kept losing. It was so strange since I love food too. It did just take time, getting on with life, and talking to my friends. I looked great tho cuz i had weighed too much with him since he made me eat things...way too controling. So i shed him and the pounds...But it was a grieving type of losing. I never have lost my appetite that much in my life. Ha, I feel like mine...Even tho fighting tears accmopanied my loss of appetite.. was a blessing. I lost extra weight I had and then met some gay guy friends who took me shopping... I ended up going out, feeling great, and having fun. Now I am trying to get back to that weight and even healthier.
#8	waelkd	Jul 22 2008 22:27
for some reason heart break and getting sick are the best ways to lose weight,but the weight u lose will eventually come back,so what u should do is take it a chance to fix ur diet,and for ur appetite go for a walk and stay with friends or family,it gets ur endorphins or happy hormones circulating into ur system. anyways good luck and stay strong
#9	sevekuh	Jul 23 2008 07:10
If it helps, my girlfriend of 3 years, who I moved to the city with, broke up with me last November. I didn't eat for days, then I would eat alot, and it was terrible. It has been 9 months since that and I still think about her every day, she still affects me, and I still have dreams about her. It's such a feeling of hopelessness after losing someone from such a relationship. Time really will help, and talking is one of the best things! I didn't want to talk to anyone after that, but it would have helped me.
#10	vegetariangeek	Jul 23 2008 14:44
I can just imagine what it feels like :( Big hugs. Try some plain crackers or pretzels, they're not too bad if you're nauseous. And spend lots of time with your close friends if you can!
#11	benpen	Jul 23 2008 18:33
It will just take time. It's a cliche, but it's true. I'm sending happy thoughts your way. just hang in there. Try to eat things you would normally eat when you have the flu, like soup, crackers...bland things. You're body is reacting to all the stress. It will get better!
#12	itsbutters	Jul 23 2008 18:42
I wonder how he feels since you broke it off... poor guy!
#13	kishmish	Jul 23 2008 19:34
i know how you feel.. my fiance just told me he doesnt love me i am in shock...food is the last thing i can think about.
#14	morrighu	Jul 23 2008 19:40
Well, better now than 3 kids, two car payment, and a mortgage later :) So, instead of worrying too much, relax and make yourself a milk shake. Ok, it's not exactly a milk shake but here goes: A serving of this - http://www.bodybuilding.com/store/next/des.html - French Vanilla works well since you can flavor "around" it. 1 C. frozen fruit - you pick 2 T. lite chocolate syrup 1 C. of Almond Breeze some ice Fire up the blender, and YUM!!!
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