Weight Loss

Well i m 15 and i lost a lot of weight and ganied it back and i m so mad at myself and i m like beating  myself up i need to do this  and it hurts me everyday knowing i was at my dream weight and now   cant belive i blew it =[ like i m so upset and i just cant take it no more i want to be at the weight agian no matter what i  try its not working i got my thyorid tested nothign wrong with it but i m just so upset and appled with myself i cant take it i m sittin here cryin my sweet 16 is in feb and i need to loose weight by then someone please help me

What weight were you and are you now? That will help us to help you!

  Take a deep breath, my dear. You must learn faith in yourself. If you did it once, you can do it again.

  I know. Easy to say, but it really is so. When it seems like you can't go another day, then go another hour. If that seems to much to bear, take it one minute at a time.

  Breathe. Remind yourself that you have friends here to help and that you have already shown the remarkable capacity to do it.

  You spend a great deal of time catching yourself screwing up. It's a very common habit. Try the road less travelled: try catching yourself doing something right. Learn what many women have not learned to do. Learn that you deserve to pat yourself on the back for all that you have done and all that you are capable of doing.

-CD

right now i m around 200 i m so  mad to even say i was 120 last summer i m so mad with myself =[

I understand why you're really upset.  Now would be a good time to stand back, take a deep breath, and set new goals.  You have to be realistic.  You probably aren't going to get back down to 120 again before your birthday, BUT good news is you can probably lose around 50lbs, give or take, healthily (according to some really quick calculations I did).  How did you do it last time? It worked for you, so start trying to implement some of that back into your life. I know you probably want to be all the way back down to 120 before your birthday, but just think, 150 is still better than 200 right? AND, if you stay on track you can be super hot by next summer .  Feel free to pm me if you want to chat any time.

the thing it last time i did it real unhealthy like

it was bad i lost 100 pounds in  9 months and then i gained it all back so like i m just like soo upset like i know i m repeating myself but like it makes me so upset to be the same weight agian =[

its so fustrating

Oh dear!  Please stop with the "all or nothing" kind of thinking!  You're beating yourself up for "failing", when it sounds like all that really happened is that you lost that weight by starving yourself!  If you think about it, you didn't learn a single thing from that experience about how to moderate your food intake, nor how to have sensible eating habits!  As long as you're here, asking for help, you are still trying.  This means that you haven't given up, and that's half the battle right there!!

How about some advice?

1. Instead of focusing on your size, focus instead on why you feel compelled to eat.  Is it mindless?  Something you're doing out of boredom?  Is it because of some underlying stress or emotion that drives you to use food to cover it up?  Is it because everyone else around you is always eating so you're just doing it to fit in?  I made myself a rule that if I'm eating proper meals, at my set meal-times, and I'm feeling hungry, it's probably masking some other feeling that I'm trying to avoid.  Sure enough, when I notice a hunger pang at odd times, and do a sort of inventory of my thoughts and emotions, there's always something else going on.  I may be upset at a friend or work colleague, or I'm bored and can't think of anything else to do!
2. Try to plan your meals ahead of time.  I have a fixed time every week (more or less) when I sit down and think about how the past week went for me, and what I'd like to do next week with my weight loss efforts.  This happens usually on Saturday mornings.  I evaluate what worked and what didn't work so well.  This is the time that I also plan out what I'll be eating for my meals during the upcoming week.  I think about any upcoming obstacles -- for me it's business luncheons, for you it might be Friday's night's game or the weekend movie -- and what tricks I could use to deal with it.  I find that even planning meals for only two or three days ahead at least creates a "template" for the following days that I can easily copy.  The mere fact of having a plan, which is literally a plan for every piece of food you'll be putting into your mouth, makes it easier to deal with the many choices you're confronted with.  A scoop of ice cream?  Nope.  Sorry, it's not in the plan.  OR, okay, I can have a single scoop, but I'll have to forgo pudding at the dinner table.  And WRITE the plan out!  Use a notebook and pencil as a food diary, or keep a spreadsheet on your computer.  The mere act of writing it down helps fix it in your head.  If there's a big feast coming up, think of all the food that will likely be on the table, and figure out ahead of time which dishes you'll have, and which ones you'll skip, and what your portion sizes will be.  The added benefit of this activity is that it allows you to focus (and maybe even obsess, but in a healthy way) over what you will do, instead of how you look.
3. If you have the funds, consider trying Weigh Watchers for a while.  They give you wonderful tools for managing your food intake in a healthy way, plus they provide an excellent support group.  Perhaps you and your mother can join together (although I'm not sure if you and your mother exactly see eye to eye at this time in you life!)  I have been in WW three times, and each time I lost a great deal of weight.  My fault was in giving up, or getting too busy to make time.  Even so, the tools they gave me are the foundation of what I am doing now, and will serve me the rest of my life.  WW taught me how to gracefully deflect friends and family that urge me to eat more, how to measure portions, how to recognize when my efforts to lose weight are being sabotaged and undermined, and has given me countless of other pieces of excellent advice that guides me to this day.  I may have quit WW, but they tools they taught me to use have never quit me.
   

 

Inhale and think happy thoughts....

Ok, you didn't do it properly so you rebounded.  There are no short cuts.  You can't "diet", drop 80#, and then go back to your old behaviours without regaining all the weight. There is no magic bullet.  There is no quick fix. 

You didn't pack on 80# in 6 weeks and it won't come off like that either.  If you want to get it off and keep it off you can do it.  It won't be easy but it can be done. 

 

Inhale and think happy thoughts....

Ok, you didn't do it properly so you rebounded.  There are no short cuts.  You can't "diet", drop 80#, and then go back to your old behaviours without regaining all the weight. There is no magic bullet.  There is no quick fix. 

You have to do it slowly so that you learn a new way of thinking and feeling about food, and HOW to eat properly without gaining weight. 

You didn't pack on 80# in 6 weeks and it won't come off like that either.  If you want to get it off and keep it off you can do it.  It won't be easy but it can be done. 

 

its god well  does anyone have any like good dieting plans?

like food ets other wise ?

cause right  now i m like stressing n i wnt to just be like healthy and look the way i want to please

and thank you guys so much you have no idea what this means to me

All my life I have been overweight, if not obese. A couple summers ago (when I was 12) I went on WeightWatchers and began to lose weight. At first I ate what they recommended but I started to eat less and less to the point where I was only eating around 300 calories a day. I lost the weight quickly - I went from 190 pounds to 140 pounds from June to September. But then the people at WeightWatchers became suspicious and recommended I go see my doctor. She was afraid that I was losing weight too quickly and suggested that I stay at 140 and then go down to 130 if I wanted to in a month or so. Unfortunately, against her better judgment, I continued to eat very little and lose weight. I eventually got my calories up to 500 calories but I was exercising it all off.

By January, I was 118 pounds. Unfortunately, I began binging because I had starved my body for so long. I picked up unhealthy habits of fasting, purging, and taking laxatives which screwed up my metabolism even more. I gained massive amounts of weight and by April of last year, I was 200+ pounds!

I was so concentrated on losing weight that I lost sight of health. I would lose weight really quickly through unhealthy methods that starved my body and made me binge a lot afterwards. When I found this website, I started to learn the error of my ways and decided that I needed to lose weight for my health. It wasn't just the weight that mattered; it was my well-being.

Now I'm down to 130-something pounds and feeling better about myself than ever. How did I do it? Simple, I make sure I eat enough every day (1500 calories for me; I'm 17, 5'3, and 130-something pounds). I eat tons of fruits and veggies and also make sure I eat balanced meals and enough of everything.

gadzooks gives great advice.  It can't be a "diet" it needs to be a lifestyle change.  I'm committed to not losing more than 2 lbs a week even though I'm eager to see the weight come off.  Many of us here have done just what you did but you can't give up  you just learn from your mistakes and keep trying. 

Once you get back on the road towards being healthier you will feel better quickly about yourself you just have to be patient as the pounds come off and remember that at the goal weight the journey isn't over you just keep on going but with a few hundred calories more every day :)