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| So I finally talked to my parents... | ||
| Jul 06 2008 02:34 | ||
| Hey everyone. I came to this site about a year and a half ago (give or take) because I knew I had a problem. I always thought my face was very fat and this caused me to exercise much more than I needed to and it also caused me to eat very few calories in an effort to lose this fat. I was told by many people over the years that I had BDD and needed professional help. Well today I finally confronted my parents and told them i wanted to see a psychiatrist to help me (this weekend in particular I simply could not take it - i'm talking like 3-4 hours each day looking in the mirror). Well, here's some of the feedback I got:
"We'll send you, but then that means our family vacation is CANCELLED! And it's all your fault!" "Just another problem to add to my plate." "It's just a conscious effort on your part to get back at me and make my life a living hell." "You know what? You're just a spoiled, rotten, BRAT." So, yeah, that went extremely well. Anyway, does anyone have any advice for what I myself can now do, seeing as how the psychiatrist option is now gone? Any good BDD self help books? Anything? |
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| #1 | Jul 06 2008 02:47 | |
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I'm sorry to hear that your parents are so unsupportive! I see that you're 19 (according to your birthdate in your profile). Are you in college? If so, go to your health service and they'll help set you up with counseling. If not, I would go over your parents' heads, as tough as that is, and speak to your doctor. Your doctor could help set you up with some sort of psychiarist/psychologist, and maybe coming from a medical professional your parents will take you a little more seriously. If not, patient-doctor confidentiality means your parents would never know that you spoke to your doctor about it. |
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| #2 | Jul 06 2008 02:50 | |
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I know that School is out for the summer but do you have maybe a school counselor to visit with? Is there a counseling hotline you can call in your area? I know you must feel bad since things did not go well for now. I don't understand it either but there are other sources out there besides family members. After all....you got us! I seriously think calling someone that is not emotionally involved and is trained to help folks is probably the best avenue. Be true to yourself. Always remember that! Edit..BTW, you are a very handsome young man, so hang in there! Leslie
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| #3 | Jul 06 2008 02:52 | |
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I'm sorry that your parents are so unsupportive about it as well. But kudos to you for recognizing your problem and deciding to do something about it! That's the first step. I really think that the best option here would be to go to a psychologist and psychiatrist. As simply reading a self-help book is not really enough, in my opinion. |
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| #4 | Jul 06 2008 03:50 | |
| Thanks everyone. In short, i'm home for the summer but my school does have a counseling center which i plan to utilize when I go back in the fall. | ||
| #5 | Jul 06 2008 08:57 | |
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definitely do use it - it is very good and mature of you that you are seeking a profesiional help |
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| #6 | Jul 07 2008 05:53 | |
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Generally speaking, if you have insurance at all, it should cover some mental health services. You can check into it to see what your insurance does specifically (copay?). But I also know that payment depends on what the background of the counselor is. Most psychiatrists are more expensive and medication management oriented. Many times, they are paired up with counselors that send clients to them. Counselors can be a variety of backgrounds, social work, psychology, counseling, etc. Many also have a sliding scale fee if it is in fact out of pocket. I would hesitate to put off seeing somebody since you appear to be ready to go forward. Will another month and some change your mind? Edit: And I forgot, if you do live close to your school, they may have services open during the summer. Mental health issues don't disappear just cause ya'll go home! Not sure if you go to Rutgers, but especially big schools like that may have that open, or something connected to it. |
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| #7 | Jul 07 2008 17:41 | |
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Awe, hello i'm sorry to hear that, if you really believe you need help you dont need parent permission go see your doctor and tell i'm everything and then he will set up an appointment with somebody who can help. thats happened to me (with a different reason) but my parents didn't want me to go either but its for your well being. |
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| #8 | Jul 07 2008 18:17 | |
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Often times parents are ignorant and scared. They typically over-react in that case. It would be nice if they were supportive, but they are not at that place yet. I'm impressed that you are able to reach out to help yourself. Don't stop because of parental fear that "some doctor will mess with your head" or "you mean to tell me you can't control yourself." They forget, they've needed help from someone along the line. Don't push it with them, just focus on where you need to be for your own health. And feel good that you are taking the steps to improve your health. Since you are away from the summer, lookup the phone number to the school counselling on-line. They probably have a network they can link you into. |
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| #9 | Jul 07 2008 20:17 | |
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your parents reaction is HORRIBLE. i always thought parents were supposed to be a support system, but the more and more i deal with mine/hear about others i realize half the time they're too selfish to be that. just know that you have lots of folks on this site to support you, and that getting the help you need is up to you, and who cares what your parents say. i'm so sorry that you had to go through that kind of verbal abuse... hang in there!!!
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